5 Suggestions For Living A Slower-Paced Life (Simplify Life Series – Part 2)

Part 1 of the Simplify Life Series – The One Location To Spend More of Your Time

It’s the rushing. And the running. Perhaps the urgency, that makes our pace of life so exhausting these days.

Whatever happened to Slow? How does your life measure up to the dictionary definition of this forgotten art:

Moving or proceeding with little or less than usual speed or velocity

One of my favourite quotes by Ann Voskamp is:

Life is not an emergency. Click To Tweet

Yet don’t we often treat it as such? As a sudden, urgent meltdown requiring immediate action?

If you find yourself living in a state of reaction to unexpected occurrences throughout your week, if you can’t get to places fast enough, or are breathlessly speeding from one activity to the next – then, your answer is yes. You’ve just diagnosed your life as one of difficulty, distress, and most likely a string of daily dilemmas.


I can relate, my friend. Even as a homeschooling mother, I have struggled with the ratrace of taking my children here, there, and everywhere. It simply doesn’t bear good fruit in our own lives, or in the lives of our children to live this way.

And if you’re still not convinced you fall into the “living life as an emergency” category, compare your past week to the antonyms for “emergency” and see how you rate:

Calmness, ease, peace…

Convinced yet?

So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air.

1 Corinthians 9:26

Let’s face it, are we really able to enjoy and thrive in our many commitments, our well-intentioned service, and our seeking to do good to our children by racing around from one activity, store, and meeting to the next? In the long-term we will be exhausted, empty, and sadly, ineffective.

God did not intend for you and I to live at this pace. Just because transportation means make it possible, microwaves make it faster, and technology makes it easier, it doesn’t mean we can’t live slow, savour, and survive (well) at a healthy pace.

Following are 5 suggestions for living a slower-paced life:

1. Linger at meal times

Enjoy good conversation with those around you. Discuss your day, dreams, and dreads with your loved ones. Joke, be silly, and laugh! Share what the Lord is doing in your hearts. Listen to one another. Stay at the table and linger…

2. Lengthen rest times

Sleep longer, read more, daydream. Sip a cup of tea and take the time to look out of the window, appreciating God’s creative beauty. Pray. Live in the present moment. Do something you enjoy… for hours! Allow your soul to be refreshed as you take the time to slow down.


3. Launch Into Deep Conversations

Delve into discussions with those around you, or just enjoy a loooong conversation with a girlfriend bouncing from one topic to another – you know, the one where you both look at the time, and you can’t believe it’s that late already! Time truly does fly when you’re having fun.

Look people in the eye and launch into deep and meaningful conversations with them.

Give them the time of day. Stop and listen to those who need to talk.

We need to give one another the gift of time Click To Tweet

…And conversations often need that time to develop till the real heart of the matter comes to the surface.

4. Live It Up Outdoors

Being in the midst of God’s creation, whether it is in your back garden, or out in the woods, is invigorating. Have your meals outside, play a sport, exercise with the glory of God’s beauty around you, and enjoy the refreshment.

One of the greatest gifts that have been forfeited for the sake of home conveniences and technology is that we stay indoors far more than is good for us.

Times outdoors are often the most precious memories we experience.

5. Leave it finished

Be honest – how many books have you not completed, art projects have you left half-done, or home improvement projects have you abandoned? We have lost that feeling of accomplishing a task – completing it from start to finish. Why? We’re rushing off to the next, best thing.

Take the time to start something and finish it. Pick it up and persevere till you’ve got something you can be proud of, which will have added loveliness and blessing to this world for God’s glory.


There are so many other ways to slow down, dear one – from holidays, to hobbies, to having fun playing board games with our young ones.

The point is, be aware. If your life seems like a string of scrambling, sprinting, and stealing moments to catch your breathe, consider whether your current priorities are taking the place of potential peace and calm.

Line your vision up with God’s view of justified rushing and running;

I hasten and do not delay to keep your commandments.

Psalm 119:60

I will run in the way of your commandments when you enlarge my heart!

Psalm 119:32

The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous man runs into it and is safe.

Proverbs 18:10

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us…

Hebrews 12:1

May this kind of running be our focus, and may you and I slow down to a pace of life that allows us to truly care for ourselves, for our loved ones, and for those in our community, while exuding His glory every step of the way.

What will you start/stop doing this very day in order to slow your pace?

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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.

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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.
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41 Responses to 5 Suggestions For Living A Slower-Paced Life (Simplify Life Series – Part 2)

  1. I can definitely relate too! I’m such a multi-tasker, and lately I’ve been feeling convicted about slowing down and focusing on one thing at a time. It makes life so much simpler and it means I’m better at my tasks. I love your suggestions to linger and rest, to enjoy creation and to talk deeply. Glad I stopped by! ❤

    • womenabiding says:

      Conviction is goooooood! 🙂 God really does intervene in our lives to give us a nudge in the right direction, doesn’t He, Laura? And yes, less is often more! Thank you so much for your thoughts… xoxo ps. How did you make that red heart at the end of your comment? I’d love to know 🙂 xoxo

  2. Great list! I love the point about finishing. It’s so easy to get pulled to the next thing, but finishing well is important (and often forgotten). Thank you for the reminder.

    • womenabiding says:

      I know and I’m guilty as charged, Becky! This one is a big one for me, and I know for many others, too. I honestly looooove having you come round to share your thoughts! xoxoxo

  3. Such good suggestions for something so very important!

  4. Tehila,

    I had forgotten about that Ann Voskamp quote, and it’s soo true!! Thanks for the reminder.

    My life of late truly is running from one activity to the next. But thankfully, at 57, I am learning the importance of living in the moment. Your suggestions are spot-on.

    I always said I wished I liked tea so that it would force me to savor and just be.

    Thankfully, I have those long conversations bouncing from one subject to the next with my daughter. I never thought about how that is truly “slowing the pace down”.

    And I LOVE to be outside. It’s my favorite place to be!

    One thing I have noticed is that the phone and social media are huge stealers of a slower pace. I think people think that is helping them to slow down, but indeed, it is just speeding up our minds.

    Thank you so much for this excellent, excellent post!

    • womenabiding says:

      LOL… had to smile about your reason for wanting to like tea 🙂 You hit the nail on the head as far as social media and phones stealing our time. It is a dangerous trap that we often just accept as a part of our lives, but it can really control so many women and keep them from winding down their brains long enough to focus on the things and people that really matter around them. I so much appreciate your helpful and insightful comments, dear Karen! You’re such a blessing! xoxo

  5. I like all five of your suggestions, especially the deeper conversations one.

    • womenabiding says:

      Yes, that’s one that we as women love to do, but that is swept under the rug in the busyness of our lives. So lovely to have had you stop by, sweet Sarah! xoxo

  6. Gentle Joy Photography says:

    So important…. and so difficult to do. Thank you for the reminder to focus on this.

    • womenabiding says:

      You’re most welcome, lovely one… Thank you for sharing… it should be the easiest thing to do, but you’re right – it can really be hard to be intentional about these things xoxo

  7. Beautifully written post. We need to encourage one another to live life, and slow the pace! I love your recommendation to engage in deep conversations. My favorite past time with my sisters-in-Christ, to share our stories and engage in deep conversations. Thank you for sharing!

    • womenabiding says:

      Yes! I’m a talker, so I can relate 🙂 It’s becoming a bit of a lost art to have loooooong, drawn out, interesting and soul-building conversations. As women, we often seem to be rushing away, even though we feel pulled to continue sharing and enjoying one another’s company. So well said, dear Robin! xoxo

  8. Magi says:

    Thank you for these reminders! I’m not looking forward to the start of all those after school activities we’ll be shuttling to soon.

    • womenabiding says:

      I completely understand, Magi. Don’t forget that you have a say in what your children do and don’t do. It’s easy to be swept away in the current of all the busyness, but as moms, it’s beneficial to be intentional about what our children are involved in, and how busy they get. It’s healthy for children to be at home and have time to just relax each day, too (as it is for us mothers! :-))… May God grant you much wisdom xoxoxo

  9. God constantly reminds me that it isn’t important to multitask, whether it be through a blog post, his Word, or a book. In the last year or so, I’ve taken the time to get up early most mornings and spend an hour just being quiet. For awhile, I was using for blog work, but now I’m reclaiming it as God time. And then later on after my children are up, I have been taking the time for a walk or a bike ride all alone just because I enjoy it. These two things all happen before 9:00 a.m. and I find it is such an amazing use of my time to start my day out right.

    • womenabiding says:

      You are an absolutely inspiration, Rosanna! What a beautiful, God-fearing woman you are! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I am definitely gleaning blessing from you 🙂 xoxo

  10. natalie says:

    I love this, I am definitely guilty of rushing far too much especially when the kids are at school. Great suggestions #twinklytuesday

    • womenabiding says:

      I can relate, Natalie… When my children were at school (we homeschool now) I was like a headless chicken trying to get as much done as I could. Lovely to have you here! xoxo

  11. Beth Willis Miller says:

    Love this post! So many great reminders to pause and reflect…resting in the finished work of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ today…many blessings to you ❤️

  12. Joanne Viola says:

    All five suggestions are so good and so needed. The gift of time … truly the best gift we can give God, our family, and those around us. Thank you for this reminder today!

  13. KellyRBaker says:

    Slow down with people; run after God. Got it. 😉

  14. How true! I’m guilty! It seems like I am always rushing from one task to another-never leaving anything finished. I am not sure if it is because I am chasing perfect-which I do know is ridiculous, because perfect does not exist, or if it’s because I simply have too many irons in the fire!

    I do know I need to slow down.

    I do slow down for my children. I do put the devices away for them. Look them in their eyes & have real conversations with them-all three of them. They need my undivided attention. But you’ve made me think here…maybe I need to do the same for myself? Perhaps I wouldn’t feel so scattered and crazy if I allowed myself to step away from the distractions???

    Needless to say, I enjoyed this post & the Bible verses! It’s refreshing to read a post without vulgar language & with Christian values!!!!!!!

    • womenabiding says:

      Sounds as though you’re doing great, Heather! And yes, I’m learning more and more that I need to put my own oxygen mask on myself first, before I have the capacity, energy, and calm to nourish others in every way… Go with it, girlfriend!!! xoxo

  15. Lexie says:

    I sure could use these tips in my life right now. I feel like my days are all just about cramming in as much as possible. 🙁 It’s doing working well for me, and I am trying to declutter!

    • womenabiding says:

      I’ve been through so many of those times, too, Lexie. And they creep up on us. We don’t start out stressed and busy, but one activity at a time, one commitment at a time, and before we know it, we’re drowning! May God bless you as you simplify your life xoxox

  16. Katie says:

    This is a great list!! Definitely feel so much better when I do these things!

  17. These are such wonderful reminder. I’m not sure I know anyone who doesn’t need to learn to lengthen our periods of rest! I’m working through a book now on the value of the contemplative life in Christ. One simply cannot do that if we’re in a hurry all the time. Thanks!

    • womenabiding says:

      I looooove your comment, Karen! We can’t live the contemplative life in Christ if we’re always on the go! So, so true! Thank you for sharing your heart here! xxx

  18. These are great and so necessary! We really are too hurried and stressed-even when our schedule is full of good things.

  19. Leslie says:

    Love this! There’s lots of wisdom here and I love the verses you highlighted. You picked out my favorite one, too – Hebrews 12:1-2. Thank you for sharing!

  20. Very interesting and good ideas. Thanks for sharing. Have a wonderful weekend.

  21. This is a great list – we always seem to be in a rush these days. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  22. I love all of these and they fit right in with my Year of Less! Thanks for the reminders to slow down.

  23. Jann Olson says:

    What a great post. I think it is so important to slow down and take time to think. I often like just sitting in my family room for a few minutes with no noise or other distractions. It’s a great time to reflect and let the Lord touch my heart! Thanks for sharing with SYC.

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