The #1 Location To Spend More of Your Time (Simplify Life Series – Part 1)

Simplify Life Series – Part 2 – 5 Suggestions For Living A Slower-Paced Life

There are so many books, articles, documentaries, and blogs dedicated to how we can simplify our lives in the 21st century. This must indicate that life simply has gotten too complicated. Too busy. Too hectic.

Deep in our souls, we all yearn for simpler days.

You may not even be able to  imagine it. Like me, you may be so used to running your children to sports practices, music recitals, and friends, that you can hardly picture the family being together, relaxing at home for an evening. You may have become so accustomed to filling every moment of your time with checking social media, checking your emails, and checking your phone, that you can’t perceive of checking out for a few hours to delve into a good book.


Dear one, we are completely clueless of what a simple life can look like in this day and age. We can’t fathom the peace and tranquility that a slow paced life can bring. But we need to. At least to some degree. Think about it… why do we all love holiday seasons? It’s the slowing down, the lingering with loved ones, the spending far too long around our meal tables. That’s the reason we look forward to those times!

Looking back at yesteryear can give us some ideas of how to halt the neckbreaking speed of our days, and while it may be countercultural to incorporate some of those ideals into our weeks, I assure you, the racing, rushing, darting pace we find ourselves living in, will not be missed.

The #1 Location To Spend More of Your Time

Imagine a life where you condense the running around to perhaps two afternoons a week. Where besides going to your congregation and fellowshipping on a Sunday, most of your time is spent serving those within your home sphere.

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Mothers who spend more time away than near them, while home life is neglected. It doesn’t have to be this way. Even in our day and age.

One of the most noticeable differences between way back when and modern life is that folks seemed to have had so much more time on their hands. They weren’t rushing off here, there and everywhere. They lingered in to spending time with one another other, and they were at home a lot more!

There weren’t as many choices of things to sign up for that would take them away from home. And since transportation wasn’t as readily available as it is today, people stayed with their families, in their comfortable surroundings, doing productive work and enjoying productive rest at home.

Because they spent so much more time at home, they spent more time with the people inhabiting their home. Relationships were closer, more fun was had together, there was opportunity to develop conversations and debates around the dinner table, and work within the household together.

The Trap of This Generation

I found myself falling into the trap of this generation over the past months. I seemed to be spending less and less time at home, and more and more time running franctically around town. I thank God for opening my eyes to where I was headed. My children were agitated instead of at peace, meals were thrown together instead of thoughtfully created, and quality time with one another seemed to be limited to a few moments here and there, in between what seemed like more pressing matters.

Not surprising when we are told this from the very Word of God:

Like a bird that strays from its nest
    is a man who strays from his home.

Proverbs 27:8

At the risk of sounding too idealistic, I know that life was never perfect for sinful man, but I truly believe that the if your pace of life is slower, and when the place of life is embraced, a far warmer, kinder, less stressful, and more loving environment will be fostered.

Take your time. At home.

Our schedules can become so hurried. And it happens ever so gradually. Busyness creeps in one opportunity at a time. Neglect of the haven that God gives us to nurture our loved ones slithers in unnoticed, becoming obvious only when we see large cracks in those very people whom we yearn to see thriving and whole.

The Elephant In the Room

Your mind may be wondering at this point to the elephant in the room. Perhaps the most glaring and obvious difference between this generation and any other is the introduction of technology. Rampant distraction, aggressively robbing every last chance of free and meaningful communication.

Dear, precious friend, I know full well it’s out there, but it doesn’t have to come into our homes – certainly not to the same degree as we think it does. Sure it takes us setting boundaries as parents, having to guard our children protectively from the habits that can take over their lives, but keeping the importance of eye contact and one on one communication as high priorities within our families are key. Put down your phone, check emails twice or three times a day, keep social media to a minimum – once the children have gone to sleep in the evening… Be present in the here and now.

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Saying no to the mad rush that pulls you away from spending time with those you love most is a choice you will never regret. Your children will thank you (when they’re 30 :-))…

Begin today!

Make a list of all the activities that take you out of home each week. Note which you can remove from your life, and how you can condense others, so that you can be at home more. Let me know your discoveries 🙂.

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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.

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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.
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49 Responses to The #1 Location To Spend More of Your Time (Simplify Life Series – Part 1)

  1. Yes. A slower life, a life of more eye contact and good conversations!

  2. These are such wise words! For many years, I have determined to spend more time at home… to be the wife and mother of my family… to minister to my family… and then to others around me… many times, FROM MY HOME. It is way too easy to let busyness take over… to neglect the people who are most precious to us… and we can’t get this time back. It is so important to keep our focus where it should be. Honoring and serving God does NOT have to mean, leaving the family to fend for itself. Thank you for your post. 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      “We can’t get this time back…” Wow! So true… if for no other reason, that is motivation enough to get this family thing right, and to be a mother who is there, present, through thick and thin… Love how your ministry at home and from home has been so fruitful… What a blessing you are! xoxo

  3. Lesley says:

    I agree, it is so easy to get caught up in rushing around, trying to do it all, feeling under pressure that we have to, but there are so many benefits from slowing down and taking time to simplify things a bit. Visiting from Coffee For Your Heart.

    • womenabiding says:

      Yes, Lesley! So well said… I think once we slow down, we start to see the blessing and benefits of it for ourselves and our families very quickly… So glad you stopped by! xoxox

  4. Wonderful post! As an empty nester, I remind my friends who have children at home (regardless of age) that one day the home will be quiet and the chaos will be less …it will come sooner than you think so treasure the time you have today! I encourage them to spend quality time together as a family, no regrets!

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh I *love* your perspective Robin!!! I need it!!! Thank you so much for sharing… I pray that many would read your words and take them to heart xoxo

  5. Susan Shipe says:

    SO VERY TRUE. Distracted mothers. GOD HELP US.

  6. Kelsey says:

    Wonderful thoughts! I recently moved closer to family and friends and have enjoyed inviting others over and letting my home be a place of rest and fellowship for many.

    • womenabiding says:

      How wonderful, Kelsey!!! Yes, something I didn’t mention in this post is how our homes can be such a beautiful oasis to those around us as we share it in hospitality with others… so important, and so blessed… Being home is the best! You’re doing it, girlfriend!!! xoxox

  7. What wise words! We just spent 3 weeks on vacation moving at a different pace and it really put some things in perspective, including how much time we spend with technology instead of each other. We now must make a conscious effort to turn that around.

    • womenabiding says:

      Yup, yup, yup! Coming back from a time away always gives us new eyes to the way we live. I’ve probably made my greatest life changes when I’ve returned home and saw with new perspective how things *should* be! Loved having you stop by, Marva! xoxo

  8. Brenda says:

    Trying to set a slower pace myself this summer. Thanks for sharing, Tehilia. 🙂

  9. Thank you for linking up at The Blogger’s Pit Stop Link Party. I’m sharing your link on social media.
    Carol (“Mimi”) from Home with Mimi

  10. Liz Teaches says:

    Yes, it is true that our heart yearns for simpler days–simpler life. Great to see that you have chosen this theme. Simplify life series gonna be the best series.

  11. Anna says:

    I find that so many today, including myself and my children are at home more, but present less. Instead of going out we stay in and watch movies and binge shows on tv and we spend all our “edge space”–those ten minutes between duties and appointments, the time spent waiting–on social media or other internet based pursuits instead of talking to our neighbors, getting to know family members, or strengthening important relationships. We may cut back on electronic distractions, but we choose peace and quiet for us with a kids show for the young ones over getting messy the hard work of training our young ones in the way they should go. We allow an hour here and there and before we know it the year has gone by and the children have spent more hours with the Walt Disney Company than with their parents. I probably should say “I” instead of “we,” as I am preaching mostly to myself, but sadly, I know I am not the only one. I pray that God will change me as a parent and give me the wisdom and strength and resources to first–rely on him and not my own strength, as the battle is the Lord’s and we fight not against flesh and blood, and second–to become the best woman I can be as an example to my children, and third–to lead my children and train them effectively to be the best Christians they can be.
    I ask on behalf of all the mothers out there who are trying to raise godly children in an ungodly culture for prayer. To those women who have no children at this time, perhaps God has given them the task to pray for those with children, who have not the leisure to spend long hours in prayer, and for their children, that God would grant them mercies and grace for salvation. May we all remember all the saints in prayer, whenever we have the chance.

    • womenabiding says:

      Ouch! Anna, you have hit the nail on the head here in full force! I personally needed to hear this, and I know many moms struggle with this temptation, too! You’re 100% correct. Being home is not equal to being present! May God help us, grant us creativity, may our love for our children’s hearts overtake our love of quiet and convenenience, and may our Saviour stamp eternity on our eyes that we may live our lives as mothers honouring Him in all we do, not seeking to save our energy, but seeking to save the lost – even if those lost souls are those of our dear children… *Thank you* for your amazing and truthful words, my friend xooxoxox

  12. Jann Olson says:

    Very wise words! Life now days is such face paced. People need to slow down and enjoy the present! Thanks for sharing with SYC.

  13. Yes, yes, yes! My heart completely and something I advocate on my own blog.

  14. Tani Newton says:

    Love this post!! I’ve spoken to so many older women who regret the time they didn’t spend with their children… I’ve never met anyone who says “I wish I’d rushed around more”!

  15. Donna says:

    Lots of truth and wisdom here! Many of the “opportunities” we have today to take part in this and to go here and there, have failed to make our lives richer, only more harried. The older I get, the more I yearn to be home.

  16. What excellent advice! You’re so right. Recently I read a post that really challenged me: it was written by a woman who lives on a very limited budget, and she was explaining how she and her family lived with just one car. She said that people often ask her how she endures being “stuck at home.” Her reply was that she doesn’t think of her home as a place where she’s “stuck”: it’s the dearest place on earth to her.

    Thanks so much for your gentle reminder to simplify. And thanks for joining the Grace at Home party at Imparting Grace. I’m featuring you this week!

    • womenabiding says:

      Wow! Thanks so much, Richella… xoxox I really loved that account you gave by this dear blogger… I think that it really is the mentality of our modern society to be “stuck at home.” That may be why the term “housewife” has such negative connotation to people, too. It raises images of a woman “at home” alot… which is actually a wonderful thing! Truly appreciate your input here and your sweet friendship xoxo

  17. Crummy Mummy says:

    These are valid points but I do think they apply to men as well as women #twinklytuesday

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you for your interesting comment… I definitely believe men should be home with their families when they can… We need our hubbies around, and children need their daddies, too xoxoxo

  18. Laura Lane says:

    Tehila, you’ve hit upon the issue of our times in family life. You gave good advice.
    Be blessed,
    Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage
    Carthage, Missouri

  19. Mary Hill says:

    We get so wrapped up in being involved in community that we forget our place at home helps our children so much more. Thanks for sharing on the #LMMLinkup.

  20. There are definitely a lot of distractions to entice us these days. SOmetimes it’s good to switch off and take a step back. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  21. Molly says:

    What a lovely post. Slowing down (I confess) has always been a challenge for me. Thank you for reminding me again what is truly necessary.

    • womenabiding says:

      Appreciate your comment, Molly. Your humility is exemplary, and honestly, I think it’s a struggle for most of us! Myself included – but sooooo worth it! xoxo

  22. Miriam says:

    I totally agree that we need to spend more time having “productive rest” at home.

  23. This is very thought provoking, I have had to slow down my life, because I suffered a massive stroke, which has left me disabled, at least I have memories of a life I loved though #[email protected]_karendennis

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh, precious Karen! I am so sorry to hear this! May God strengthen you daily! Thank you so much for taking the time and making the effort to comment xoxoxox

  24. I try to limit my girls to one activity each, because I know the toll it takes on my body (and our bank account.) yes, we all need to spend more time at home!

    • womenabiding says:

      That is so great to hear, Sarah! Such an intentional decision… I heard of a mom who paid for one activity for each of her children, and if they wanted to do any more, they had to pay 50% for them… Needless to say, that kept the activity level way down 🙂 God bless you, lovely one! xoxo

  25. Here’s the message again!!! I’m hearing it loud & clear!!! Another great post!!!!

    • womenabiding says:

      Thanks, Heather… I think we can’t hear enough about this subject nowadays… it’s just the way of the world, and we are brought back to reality by being reminded to slow down… 🙂 xoxo

  26. Leslie says:

    So true! Thank you for sharing. The Proverb is such a good reminder for me today.

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