A Priceless Opportunity You Can Miss As A Christian Woman

Can you relate to this scene?

Grace (Younger Woman): Hi Annabel! It’s wonderful to see you again. Thank you so  much for dropping by for a visit!

Annabel (Older Woman): I’ve been thinking about you and wanted to see how you’re doing.

Grace: Well, actually, I’ve really been struggling with a number of issues in my life…

Annabel: Well, I’d love to hear about them if you’d like to share… I must just tell you that I’ve got a new grandson… would you like to see photos?

Grace: Sure…

Annabel: Isn’t he adorable? I went to see him last week, and I couldn’t believe how cute he is. He has just turned 6 months old, and has a new tooth coming through! Oh, Max and I have started renovating our kitchen.

Grace: Oh wow!

Annabel: We’re going to have it in neutral colours, not like the original one! By the way, Max’s cousin just had back surgery and is in so much pain – the poor guy. He’ll be in hospital for at least three weeks and then will need a carer when he returns home, but his son and daughter in law live right down the street so will be coming in to check on him regularly.

Grace: That’s kind.

Annabel: Oh, that reminds me, my grandmother used to care for an elderly man down her street after my grandfather died. He had pretty bad arthritis and needed help around the house, so she used to go over there to help with some cooking and light household chores. And then she landed up marrying him! He had four children of his own, so she used to ……………………………….

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45 minutes later….

Annabel: Goodness look at the time, I must rush off, I need to do some grocery shopping.

Grace: Thank you for coming, it sure was great to see you!


If you had the patience to read through that little fictional story, you will have a good picture of my observations of many older women whom have crossed my path over the past few years.

Did you notice that the younger woman in this scenario, Grace, was honest enough to confess that she has an array of heartfelt struggles going on in her life? She needed to talk to someone. She needed an older woman to bounce things off of, one that could impart to Grace her wisdom, her experience, and her prayers. Grace must have thanked God as she opened the door to Annabel, “Lord, you’ve brought me an older woman who can listen and help me in the midst of my trials!”

Yet 45 minutes later, as Annabel left, Grace was nowhere nearer exposing the aches of her heart to anyone, and void of wise counsel. She was still stuck back at square one!

Annabel missed a golden opportunity to reach out, to listen, to extend knowledge and understanding that she accumulated over decades of life experience.

Consider this alternative scenario:

Grace (Younger Woman): Hi Annabel! It’s wonderful to see you again. Thank you so much for dropping by for a visit!

Annabel (Older Woman): I’ve been thinking about you and wanted to see how you’re doing.

Grace: Well, actually, I’ve really been struggling with a number of issues in my life…

Annabel: Well, I’d love to hear about them if you’d like to share… start at the beginning. I’m here to help! I care about you, and if the Lord can use me in any way to encourage you today, I’ll be delighted!

Grace: That is such a relief, Annabel. I honestly feel better already. Well, for starters, Bobby got a job offer which would require us to move to a town three hours away……………………………

[Grace proceeds to share freely about several parenting issues that she is concerned about, a marital struggle, and some financial concerns she has. Annabel responds to each one giving her invaluable, practical advice drawn from her decades of marriage, bringing up her own children, and other experiences.]

45 minutes later….

Annabel: I need to rush off, I’m afraid, but can I pray for you before I do?

Grace: I’d love nothing more, thank you!

[Annabel prays sincerely for Grace, and promises to check in on her by phone within the next few days to see how she’s faring.]

With tears of gratitude filling her eyes, Grace parts with this Godly older woman, feeling renewed, relieved, and ready to face the struggles that burdened her so greatly only minutes earlier.

Are You An “Older Woman?”

You see, an older woman is not only someone who has grey hair or has reached a certain age. You qualify as being an older woman if you have been through the stage of life that another person is just going through now. I am 43 years old, and have a woman aged 32 that I am encouraging on a regular basis. I’m not old enough to be her mother, but I’ve been through the stage of having young children, and I’ve been through the first years of marriage, which she is currently going through, etc. So to her, I’m an “older woman.”

The truth is that at any given time, each of us is both an “older woman” and a “younger woman.”

There will always be those who are further along than we are, and those whom are coming up behind us in age and stage. 

My friend, if you are “older woman”, you can invest your time, expertise, and support to another, simply because you have walked further down the road of life than she has. You have the blessing and privilege of listening, showing great care, and encouraging.

As an “older woman” you can be imparting life-giving wisdom to one who so desperately need it.

You have your ministry cut out for you by simply being willing to open your heart and life to another who is experiencing day to day life, with all of its joys and highs, but also hardships and trials.

In fact, I’ll go as far as to say that as a woman, God has placed within you a natural desire to pass on your knowledge and experience to others who are younger than you are. It’s His way…

One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.

Psalm 145:4

What The “Younger Woman” Needs

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Younger women need support.

They need reassurance.

They need faith-boosting reminders that they are valuable, and that God is using them greatly in their families and communities.

They need a shoulder to cry on.

They need practical tips and advice.

They need loving correction.

They need refreshment.

They need perspective that what they are going through will pass, and that they’re enduring a short season in light of the scope and length of their lives.

They need prayer.

They need so much of what an older woman can generously give.

Don’t rob them of these. Don’t rob yourself of the blessing of being available to be involved in their lives.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children…

Titus 2:3-4

A Note To The “Younger Woman”

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If you are a “younger woman”, please understand that I realise that the number of older women who are willing to take the initiative and make the plunge into a meaningful relationship with you are sadly few and far between. 🙁

I encourage you to take the following steps:

1) Pray

Firstly pray and ask God to bring one into your life. Don’t just pray once… Keep praying until He faithfully answers and provides one. Not every older woman is right for you. You want a match made in Heaven 🙂.

2) Take Initiative

As the Lord leads, take the initiative to reach out to an older woman that may be able to be a listening ear and a support to you. Don’t be shy. Befriend such a woman whom you can admire, look up to, and learn from.

3) Humble Yourself

Super important is to humble yourself in opening your heart to her, in entrusting to her areas of your life that you may even be ashamed of. A special connection like that with an older woman, is an invaluable gift that you will treasure in this lifetime, and for all eternity.

I know it’s not culturally acceptable in our Western World to be so vulnerable. The walls, the defenses, the pride involved can keep any younger woman from letting down those guards. But it’s so worth it. So worth it!

Worth mentioning as part of humbling yourself, is be open to putting into practice the advice an “older woman”gives you. Of course way it up by Scripture first, and make sure your husband is on board with it, but do consider the experienced counsel of one that God brings into your life.


We often gravitate to those in our own age bracket and stage, but as someone who has been privileged of having an older woman in my life for many years, but who doesn’t have one locally now, I can vouch for the incredible difference it makes and the tremendous blessing it is!

May our great and merciful God grant both older women and younger the treasure of this ordained connection.

Are you an older woman or a younger one? Please share an encouraging experience of being in the biblical relationship of older/younger women.

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