Have you ever lost someone in your life? A grandparent, an aunt or uncle, maybe even a friend?Photo credit: seyed mostafa zamani via photopin cc
I recently mentioned in a post titled, “Living Fearlessly In A Fearful World” that I would share my story of loss with you. I intended to do so within a couple of weeks, but every time I go near this chapter of my life, it hurts. The wound, even years later, bleeds when pressed. The memories when even gently prodded, cause pain.
With God’s healing, a deeper Bible understanding, and time, the sting and heartache have greatly subsided. But it still takes a great choice of my will to open up my heart in this area. I want to do it for you. Because my greatest hope right now, is that God would use my story in your life – to bring freedom, joy, and renewed faith in your Creator after your loss, and to help you in dealing with grief.
The Day My Life Changed
It happened on Wednesday, March, 8th, 2000. Three days prior, my husband and I bid my mother farewell at the airport in Israel, where we lived. She was travelling to be with my sister in Northern Ireland, who was in advanced pregnancy, and my mom would be there until the baby was born and beyond. To serve. To hold. To touch.
72 short hours passed, and news came of a fatal car accident in which both my mother, my sister, and the unborn baby boy were instantly killed.
But I can testify, dear one, of God’s faithfulness in preparing me for that life-changing event in my life. In ways big and small. Through fascinating occurrences and unexplainable ‘coincidences’. God prepared me.
God Paved The Way
Rewind six months. My mother announces to me that she believes that God is leading her to give up her rental home; to dispose of all her earthly belongings. She shares that God has brought some verses to her attention in His Word, that He will give her a far better home when she returns from Ireland.
For six months she is giving away and selling all her earthly possessions. She is notifying landlord and employer of termination of rent and work. She even closes her bank account…
Did she know that she would be translated into Glory within a few months? No. She didn’t. But God was preparing her. And He was preparing us. No one would have imagined where the journey she began would lead. However, no one can mistake that God’s word to her was fulfilled in all perfection and truth. A better home, of greater and eternal value, she did receive! And dwells in still.
The joy of holding her daughter and grandchild was to be in a place where no greater joy could be known. The beauty of the rolling, green hills of Ireland was to appear as filth compared to the indescribable beauty of her new surroundings. And the sinful body in which she dwelled for 54 years, was to be replaced with one that would never again know pain, hurt, or discomfort.
The Stages of Grief Begin
But… here I was. Back on earth. With the stark reality that I would not see my mother and sister (25) again for the rest of my life on this planet. Those first days, weeks, and months were crazy. And it would take a book to record all the details. A lot of good came out of the experience.
But I confess, that in those first years, even though I still walked with God and never turned my back on Him, I lost my joy, and my trust in Him. I took my life into my own hands. As far as I was concerned, the last time I left things up to God, He fell asleep on the job, and look what happened! It wasn’t till years later, I’m talking nine, loooong years later, that I began to understand some truths that the Lord used to return unto me, the joy of my salvation.
Tools To Help You Overcome Grief
I wish I had the space to write more. To share my whole story. A short blog post simply cannot suffice to encapsulate the magnitude of it all. But the part that will be most beneficial to you is yet to come, and I truly am excited to share with you the tools that took me almost a decade to learn. These have the potential for progressing you miles and miles in your grief process and can be easily implemented too. It is my desire, and I believe, God’s will, for you to be free, once and for all, of the pain and guilt that you have carried since you lost your loved one.
To God be the Glory. Forever and ever. Amen!
Please head to Part 2 in this series on Grief, titled, How To Recognize God In All Circumstances.
Have you lost anyone dear to you in your life? How are you dealing with the loss, and where have you seen God’s Hand of faithfulness in your grief?
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