My Story and Tools To Help You Overcome Grief – Part 1

Have you ever lost someone in your life? A grandparent, an aunt or uncle, maybe even a friend?

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I recently mentioned in a post titled, “Living Fearlessly In A Fearful World” that I would share my story of loss with you. I intended to do so within a couple of weeks, but every time I go near this chapter of my life, it hurts. The wound, even years later, bleeds when pressed. The memories when even gently prodded, cause pain.

With God’s healing, a deeper Bible understanding, and time, the sting and heartache have greatly subsided. But it still takes a great choice of my will to open up my heart in this area. I want to do it for you. Because my greatest hope right now, is that God would use my story in your life – to bring freedom, joy, and renewed faith in your Creator after your loss, and to help you in dealing with grief.

The Day My Life Changed

It happened on Wednesday, March, 8th, 2000. Three days prior, my husband and I bid my mother farewell at the airport in Israel, where we lived. She was travelling to be with my sister in Northern Ireland, who was in advanced pregnancy, and my mom would be there until the baby was born and beyond. To serve. To hold. To touch.

72 short hours passed, and news came of a fatal car accident in which both my mother, my sister, and the unborn baby boy were instantly killed.

Shock.

But I can testify, dear one, of God’s faithfulness in preparing me for that life-changing event in my life. In ways big and small. Through fascinating occurrences and unexplainable ‘coincidences’. God prepared me.

God Paved The Way

Rewind six months. My mother announces to me that she believes that God is leading her to give up her rental home; to dispose of all her earthly belongings. She shares that God has brought some verses to her attention in His Word, that He will give her a far better home when she returns from Ireland.

For six months she is giving away and selling all her earthly possessions. She is notifying landlord and employer of termination of rent and work. She even closes her bank account…

Did she know that she would be translated into Glory within a few months? No. She didn’t. But God was preparing her. And He was preparing us. No one would have imagined where the journey she began would lead. However, no one can mistake that God’s word to her was fulfilled in all perfection and truth. A better home, of greater and eternal value, she did receive! And dwells in still.

The joy of holding her daughter and grandchild was to be in a place where no greater joy could be known. The beauty of the rolling, green hills of Ireland was to appear as filth compared to the indescribable beauty of her new surroundings. And the sinful body in which she dwelled for 54 years, was to be replaced with one that would never again know pain, hurt, or discomfort.

The Stages of Grief Begin

But… here I was. Back on earth. With the stark reality that I would not see my mother and sister (25) again for the rest of my life on this planet. Those first days, weeks, and months were crazy. And it would take a book to record all the details. A lot of good came out of the experience.

But I confess, that in those first years, even though I still walked with God and never turned my back on Him, I lost my joy, and my trust in Him. I took my life into my own hands. As far as I was concerned, the last time I left things up to God, He fell asleep on the job, and look what happened! It wasn’t till years later, I’m talking nine, loooong years later, that I began to understand some truths that the Lord used to return unto me, the joy of my salvation.

Tools To Help You Overcome Grief

I wish I had the space to write more. To share my whole story. A short blog post simply cannot suffice to encapsulate the magnitude of it all. But the part that will be most beneficial to you is yet to come, and I truly am excited to share with you the tools that took me almost a decade to learn. These have the potential for progressing you miles and miles in your grief process and can be easily implemented too. It is my desire, and I believe, God’s will, for you to be free, once and for all, of the pain and guilt that you have carried since you lost your loved one.

To God be the Glory. Forever and ever. Amen!

Please head to Part 2 in this series on Grief, titled, How To Recognize God In All Circumstances.

Have you lost anyone dear to you in your life? How are you dealing with the loss, and where have you seen God’s Hand of faithfulness in your grief?

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82 Responses to My Story and Tools To Help You Overcome Grief – Part 1

  1. Marty says:

    Oh, dear one I have never experienced the grief you’ve expressed here. And, if I am being honest, when I read stories like this…when someone shares the struggle and yet the many ways God is faithful to them through such a horrible circumstances, I get a little scared that maybe it’s looming on the horizon of my own life. But then I realized that just as He gave you the faith to walk those long nine years and more to come, that He will be faithful to me if that is what He has prepared for me.
    I can imagine how painful it must be to pull this all out in the open and lay it bare for others to see but know that He will use your suffering in ways that will glorify Him.

  2. B.O. says:

    Your post was so good. I too have been through many losses; losses that takes all of your energy’s away. Where you feel so empty you cannot take another step. I still have to deal with these losses, where they are ongoing. Some will never be repaired. BUT, I grasp every little “good” event that happens today. All because God is my strength, my breath, my all. I struggle, even today; but my victory is grasping the tiniest of God’s good. Thank you for sharing your pain. One day you, I, and all believers will see the face of God. HE will wipe our tears and pain away. Praise Him, Praise Him.

    • womenabiding says:

      Sweet friend, I am so sorry to hear of your losses, and love the way you are giving glory to God through them all. God never gives us more than we can handle, and I know that He has equipped you with everything you need to live with your past trials. Praise Him, indeed! Blessings and big hugs to you xx

  3. Rachael says:

    I entered my email address. I want to learn more…about your story…about helping others work through their own grief…about the healing process. Thanks for sharing! Blessings to you! Love, Rachael @ Inking the Heart

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you, Rachael! It’s a blessing to have some tools to pass on to others who are hurting and grieving, indeed. God bless you, sweet sister! xx

  4. Karen Major says:

    Hi Tehila,
    I had never heard of this chapter of your life- how painful for you to grapple with. I lost my adored older brother suddenly in a motorcycle accident when he was just 21- I was 17. It had an enormous impact on me as I was not saved but only churched somewhat in the Anglican Church- I was so angry at God and could not understand why he would allow or even cause such a thing to happen. Incredibly it was this event in my life that got my attention and within a year through various people God caused me to recognize my bitterness and to confess my anger toward his sovereign rule. That exact day one year later after Stuart died I repented and trusted God with my life. I still do not know if he will be in heaven or my Dad for that matter who died from a heart attack suddenly in 2002 but what I do know is this, that dwelling on the unknown serves only to lead to negative thoughts,self focus and questioning of Gods character. Isaiah gives profound advice in his book chapter 26:3-4 that I have drawn much comfort from. In addition I determine to take captive each thought that is contrary to Paul’s commands in Philippians4:6-9 to consider that which is true, right, noble, pure, excellent, admirable…. Xx

    • womenabiding says:

      Dearest Karen… I guess it’s not the kind of thing one goes around talking about, unless something triggers the conversation in that direction. I was so sorry to hear about your brother, and know that that must have been terribly traumatic for you. I’m praising God with you that He led you to Himself through that gut-wrenching tragedy, and has blessed you so much ever since. Only God knows where our loved ones are, and once they’ve passed from this Earth, as you know, there is nothing we can but hope that they did know the Lord, and that we will see them again in Heaven. Thank you so much for those verses, I’m going to look them up! Much, much love to you, my friend… xxx

  5. Esther says:

    I love you Tehila,
    I pray that is sharing this painful story you will be able to experience the complete healing of your heart as you rejoice in the privilege of comforting others with the comfort you have received (2Cor1:3ff).
    I am no stranger to grief either, and I used to HATE that verse in James 1:2,3, but I have found it to be true: incredible joy in the midst of trials (and I didn’t have to wait 9 years for it either *sympathetic hug*). It is hard to believe unless you have experienced it, but God is never closer and more intimate in his care than when one of his beloved lambs is suffering.
    I am so excited that you are using this blog to pass such joy on to others too. May many hearts be touched as you share part 2.

    Am I right in assuming that your regular subscribers will automatically receive part 2?

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you for your comfort and compassion, Esther! Yes, if you are already subscribed, you will receive part 2 automatically :-)… So much appreciate your love, my friend! xx

  6. Esther says:

    Hey this is really cool! Your site puts little windows with the verses on when ever you hover the cursor over the reference!
    I need to have a technology talk with you some time soon.

  7. Amy-Lee says:

    Dealing with the grief of losing our son and need to hear part 2. We are still young on our Christian journey and struggling with so many things at the moment. Thank you for sharing. We appreciate your story helping others find peace.
    God Bless xxx

    • womenabiding says:

      I am so sorry to hear about your dear son, Amy-Lee! May God truly bring your much, much comfort and peace in the midst of your bereavement. I am looking forward to you reading part 2 of this message, and will be praying that it will greatly help you, my friend. I’m here for you if you want to “talk”… Blessings courageous one… xxxxxx

  8. Hazel Moon says:

    I have lost parents and grandparents to old age, but when there is an accident as you describe, that is devastating and so sad. It does take the healing and comforting presence of the Holy Spirit to heal such wounds. Thank you for sharing your story at “Tell Me a Story.” I know it is needed here today!

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you for that, Hazel! You’re right that losing someone tragically in an accident is more shocking, and is difficult too, but losing loved ones due to old age and natural circumstances isn’t easy either, and we need to grieve them too… Really appreciate your encouragement! Blessings…

  9. Mia says:

    When I was a little girl I lost my mother due to an aneurism. I remenber things of her before her death as well as a few weeks after. But till today I cannot remember anything of her death and the funeral! When my dad passed away, I didn’t think I would survive. He was the only person whom I really talked to at that stage of my life. But, God’s grace is always enough.
    Blessings
    Mia

    • womenabiding says:

      Wow, Mia.. I am so sorry to hear of the hardships you have faced… May God continue to heal and comfort you deeply beautiful sister… xx

  10. Thank you, Tahila, for sharing your story of your mother, sister, and nephew. You have touched me deeply. I haven’t had the tragic grief of loosing close family members like that but I know even in your darkest hours it was comforting to know that they were in heaven with the Lord Jesus. You know what has touched my life, and what has brought me out of a seven year slump was sharing and encouraging other women through writing on my blog, and learning to be intentionally thankful to the Lord daily. That brings joy!!

    • womenabiding says:

      It truly is more blessed to give than to receive, isn’t it Judith. Giving out, and focusing on others, is a wonderful medicine and gets our minds off of ourselves and onto encouraging others… I’d love to hear your 7-year-slump-story some time… God bless you beloved friend! xx

  11. Jen says:

    I am taken back, my friend, by this powerful testimony. Although the tragedy is difficult, I see the promises of God & provision He has given to you & your family! Such perfect timing with the tornado hitting. That even in tragedy….God is still there. May this post offer hope & help to many! Thank you for offering it to others over at UNITE today! ~ Jen

    • womenabiding says:

      Amen, and thank you for your lovely words, Jen. I always feel extremely honoured when you spend time reading my posts and commenting. You are a blessing to me! xx

  12. I lost a brother to suicide, and I’ve been trying to work up the words to do a post similar to this. I have a friend who calls what we went through a “dark night of the soul”. It’s hard to trust God when it becomes all to real that his will can include anything. It’s hard to find security again. It’s been almost 3 years now, and I finally came to understand that, even though I don’t understand God’s will, I’d much rather be in it than out of it. It is so important for Christians to share these things so that we don’t feel alone or condemn ourselves when we do have those seasons of doubt and distrust. Thank you so much for this post!

    • womenabiding says:

      Dear, beloved Sarah… My heart aches for your loss… truly. And I can relate to you in many ways. I do believe that some points that I will share in my next post or two will greatly benefit you on your journey. You are loved of the Lord, and in His care and hands… Love and big hugs… Tehila xx

  13. Joanne Viola says:

    I cannot imagine the loss that you have shared. How blessed we are to have a God Who prepares us & then walks alongside of us through it all. He alone can provide the comfort we need. Thank you so much for sharing this. I was your neighbor at Winsome Wed. this morning.
    Blessings,
    Joanne

    • womenabiding says:

      God is so good and is truly an all-in-all comfort when confronting times of grief, Joanne. Totally agree with and value your comment. God bless you! xx

  14. Beth says:

    What a painful time in your life, Tehila. I can’t even begin to imagine what you felt walking through such a dark and confusing time. But I’m amazed by the way God prepared you and your mother for that day. Of course, it never takes away the pain, but it does bring comfort and the realization that God is in control and so very good. I can’t wait to hear what He has taught you through this trial. You’ve got me hooked and I’ll be back to read about the “tools.” In the meantime, consider yourself “cyber-hugged.” Imagine that–a hug that reaches all the way from the U.S. to Australia! I’m so glad God weaves us all together!

  15. I do not even know how to reply to this post without feeling a knot in my stomach. I lost my beloved father this April to cancer and somehow I still cannot wrap my head around the fact that he is gone and I will never see him ever again, probably because I was his caregiver. It is really odd. A part of me is in pain yet at the same time I am comforted with knowing he is now with God in heaven. Does it make sense? I have been through all the stages of grief, or so I think because when I least expect it, it is back to square one. I have not dared to write about it because I think it will be like a dam breaking. So I really am holding on to God and he is making be able to handle it. Thank you for sharing this with us.

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh, Maria, I am SO sorry to hear of your recent loss, and I don’t think you can IMAGINE how much I can identify with you!!! I lost my father to cancer 9 months ago, and I still can’t believe it, comprehend it, accept it, or understand it! Unlike you, I have no assurance that my father is in Heaven. In fact, he was pretty much cursing Jesus until his last breath, so my hope that he made it is dim… BUT, I know that God COULD have saved him in those final moments… I am SO proud of you for sharing your heart here. May God bless you as you walk this road my precious sister… xxx

  16. I’m sorry for your loss but appreciate your willingness to talk about it and share it with others that we might derive strength and courage from your example. Thank you.

    Also, I’m happy to be your newest follower! I’d love it if you could take a second to check out my blog and follow me back 🙂

    Thanks so much,
    Tyson@Uplifting Love

    • womenabiding says:

      I think it’s important to talk about it… Often death, grief, and pain are taboo subjects in our society, but I’ve found that always when they are shared, they are a comfort to many, and many more can actually relate. Jumping for joy that you’re following the blog now! 🙂

  17. Becky says:

    Oh sister,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. What a horrible event. Thank you for sharing your heart and your wisdom with the world.

    God bless you!

  18. Wow, that’s some intense grief. I think one key to dealing with grief is trying to just get through a day at a time. Trust God to give you the strength to deal with today, and trust God that he will give you the strength tomorrow that you need for tomorrow’s problems.

  19. I am so very sorry that you have endured such loss and heartache. Your strength and faith shine through and that, no doubt, will give strength and faith to others facing similar difficulties.
    I lost my daughter’s twin sister during pregnancy at 27 weeks, but continued to carry them to 38 weeks. It was the most extraordinary ride of my life so far! I am grateful every single day for my surviving children and – by allowing myself to go deep into the grief – have been made a stronger, more compassionate, more grateful woman because of it. Life is a miracle to be treasured. <3
    Much love to you on your journey.
    Vicky
    xx

    • womenabiding says:

      Amen, Vicky! I’m truly sorry for your loss, but you seem to have such a Godly perspective, and yes, losing loved ones definitely causes me to be more thankful for those who are in my life! God bless you and thank you so much for sharing your story! xxx

  20. Kathleen says:

    What a great post – very helpful indeed. I use to work in hospice and everyone suffers grief in their lives or one kind or another – compassion 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      You’re so right, Kathleen. Unfortunately none of us are guaranteed not to go through grief on this earth… I’m so much looking forward to God wiping every tear from our eyes when we enter through His gates of splendour!

  21. Chan says:

    What a beautiful story about your mother and how wonderful of you to share about your loss and how God helped you through it. Many blessings !

  22. Alison says:

    Looking forward to hearing part 2. I can relate to the part about taking matters into your own hands!!

    • womenabiding says:

      Great to have you hear, Alison. I was actually going to end this little series with two parts, but I’m seeing that it’ll take more than that to express all that God has taught me through this experience… you’ll be most welcomed back! 🙂

  23. Jelli says:

    What a touching post. I’m sure that those tools are more than helpful for the women (and men) in need of healing. You’ve really written this beautifully and I’m so glad you’ve been able to use this life experience to minister to others. It’s funny how God sometimes takes the hardest life experiences, pulls us through them and closer to Him in order to touch other’s lives and direct them toward Him.

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you, my sweet friend… I have felt for 13 years that what happened to me has not been used in the lives of others, and to be honest, through the Women Abiding blog, I finally feel as though it is reaching people out there, and God willing helping them in some way… Always love your input, Jelli! <3

  24. Sylvia says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss! I think shocks like this can shake the faith of even the devoutest person. I know that my faith was (and still is at times) shaken by my daughter’s experiences. Thanks for sharing at Friendship Friday. Hope we’ll hear more on this subject!

  25. Greetings from Jamaica Tehila. I am sorry for your loss. I commend you for sharing this post. It will certainly help those of us who have lost loved ones. I lost an identical twin sister and brother over a period of 3 years. It has been a rather difficult experience but my faith in God has helped me along the way. I started my blog as part of the healing process following my twin’s death. I am now a Follower of your Blog. Take care and God Bless.

    • womenabiding says:

      That’s wonderful to hear, Judy. I love the way God uses something as virtual as cyberspace to bring healing and help us work through pain! I truly am sorry for your loss, too, dear friend, and pray that God continues to deal intimately with you as you grieve… xx

  26. I lost my dad 6 years ago. I remember the Lord saying to me in the midst of my grief, numbness, pain, shock, anger, He said “grieve, but not as one without hope”. One the sweetest most precious things about our Lord is how He comes besides us and holds us and talks to us when we can no longer make sense of things and life. We don’t always feel Him at that time, but I find He leaves little signs and indications that He’s with us. And when we look back, we can see all the places He’s been with us.

    One of the things I’ve come to learn also and by hindsight is that God never gets mad or angry or shocked by our grief. Sometimes our grief and pain is so scandalous and we want to cover it up, ignore it or hide it away. at best we don’t think God would “condone” or accompany us. Yet all the time, He’s there waiting for to reach out to Him, right where we are, and allow Him into our grief and light up our life with His presence, peace, comfort and healing (no matter how long the road)

    Thank you for sharing your story Tehila, Surely I cannot begin to imagine the depths of it, losing three family members at ago. But God…: ) He’s been faithful as you share. May He continue doing the doing work He’s began in you.

    • womenabiding says:

      Precious Ngina, I loved so much your beautiful outlook and insights that God has encouraged you with in the midst of your grief. I really appreciate you taking the time to share what you did in this place. I am sure that many reading your comment will be touched… xx

  27. momstheword says:

    I am so sorry that you’ve had to experience that. It’s never easy to lose a loved one, and to lose TWO, well actually three, at once is even more so.

    One of my bloggy friends has been putting her life back together again after losing her hubby in a car accident last July. She is finding God to be faithful but the way isn’t always easy. But He is making the rough pieces smooth and carrying her over the worst of it.

    Yes, I lost my dad to a heart attack five years ago. It was a shock because he had just got out of the hospital the day before and I really thought he was getting better. I know where he is and while I miss him, the pain is not sharp as it was. I can actually smile and enjoy memories of him without crying now.

    We will see our loved ones again someday. A few weeks ago an old friend of ours was murdered. His wife, his children, his friends are all grieving his loss. We live in a fallen world, and sometimes bad things are going to happen to good people. But regardless, we have to remember that God is always in control and we can trust Him.

    Thanks so much for linking up to the “Making Your Home Sing Monday” linky party today! 😉

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you, dear one! It is quite amazing how many folks out there have experienced tragedy and hardship. Death is often a taboo subject, so it is a blessing to hear people “coming out” about their stories and experiences! God bless you, comfort, and keep you! xx

  28. Hazel Moon says:

    That was so amazing how God prepared your mother to give everything away, almost like an advance notice that she would be taken. My grandmother was told the night prior to her husband’s death that she would soon need to be alone, but God would be with her. The next day, Grandpa lay on the couch saying he was tired, and he died. Thank you for sharing your story about grief and how to deal with it at Tell Me a Story.

  29. Mai Bateson says:

    Amen… truly a very touching and inspiring post! Many blessings…
    Visiting you from the Happy Wives Club link up.

  30. Beverly says:

    I could have written these words–in fact, I did actually say them to the Lord in a prayer: “But I confess, that in those first years, even though I still walked with God and never turned my back on Him, I lost my joy, and my trust in Him. I took my life into my own hands. As far as I was concerned, the last time I left things up to God, He fell asleep on the job, and look what happened!” We lost our oldest daughter unexpectedly in 2006 when she was 28. Looking back, I too believe I was being prepared for her death, but that didn’t make it any easier. And it’s still very hard all these years later. I have turned into a bitter, angry person and I have to do something to get past those feelings before I alienate everyone around me. Several friendships have already suffered, as well as my relationship with another daughter. I look forward to receiving and learning from your book. Thank you!

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh, Beverly. Peace be with you, beloved one. I clearly remember someone telling me around the time of my losing my family members, that what I went through was terrible, but that their heart went out to my father, because he is the one who lost a child, and that was the hardest thing. At the time, I didn’t quite understand, because even though I had already been married for a year, we hadn’t had any children yet. But the lady’s words came back to me within the first week that our first born daughter was born, and it was then that I finally understood what she said.

      I am amazed at how “in tune” you are with your own emotions, and how aware you are of the source of your actions. At the risk of sounding as though I am pedalling my posts, I really do believe that understanding and adopting the principles, and using and internalising the tools that I will share in the coming weeks, will greatly help you to do that which you could not have imagined doing – releasing your daughter into the hands of God, moving forward in your own life, and enjoying those still with you again.

      My love and heart goes out to you, Beverly. I look forward to hearing of the good that God will bring out of your most tragic experience.

  31. Kasey says:

    What unthinkable pain and what an incredible testimony to the God who brought you through it. I am truly sorry for the devastation of loss you have experienced and I pray that as you have scratched open the wound of painful memories that He will be very near to you. Thank you for sharing this post on the link-up!

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you for your comfort, Kasey. What a sweety you are! Yes, totally unexpected to me, He really is using my sharing this story with the world as a real healing step in my life! I am amazed at how He continues in the lives of His people! xx

  32. Wow, I can’t even imagine what you experienced. I have a wonderful friend who went through something with her husband. He boarded a plane in San Francisco headed to New York and died while still in the air. Years later, she sat next to a man on a plane and learned he was sitting next to her husband on that flight and helped carry the body off the plane. When she told me that, she and I both were in tears in the middle of a restaurant. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you to even think of this time long enough to write this blog post. Thank you for sharing.

    • womenabiding says:

      Wow, thank you so much for sharing that, Fawn! Besides the fact that it is really is a tear-jerking story (guilty!), it just shows how God is in everything that happens to us, and how he connects all the dots, for our own good and comfort, and for His glory! I will be sharing this amazing blessing of God to your friend… Love your input – ALWAYS!!! xx

  33. Jann Olson says:

    Oh dear, what a tragic event! I can not even imagine what it would be like to go through something like this. I was so touched by the way the Lord prepared you mother as well as all of you. I know that the pain is still there, but the comfort that the Lord offers is like being wrapped in a blanket of love. What a wonderful reunion you will all in heaven some day! Thanks for sharing this with SYC.
    hugs,
    Jann

    • womenabiding says:

      Amen, Jann! Heaven took on a whole new meaning as now I have my loved ones there to look forward to being reunited with, besides My Lord and Biblical heroes! 🙂 God is good, gracious, and worthy to be praised! Blessings to you… xx

  34. Psst! We at thet2women just loved this post and your blog and plan to feature it THIS Saturday over at One Sharendipity Place!! Thanks so much for linking up with us this past week!! We’re very glad you did!!
    sue@ thet2women.com

  35. Anita says:

    Hi Tehila,

    I want to thank you for sharing your heart, your story, and personal journey with our dear Lord, who walks by our side through excruciating pain. Blessings my friend.

  36. Amy says:

    Back on June 23, 1995, I was awoken to the news my sister-in-law, her boyfriend, their 9 year old son, a daughter in-in-law 26, her 2 children 7 and 5, were killed in a fire. At first I thought my husband, Charlene’s brother, was also killed due to the fact that he was at her house remodeling it for the week, but he spent the night at his mom’s house down the road. That day was Charlene’s 46th birthday. I believe prayer is the only thing that got not only me through those horribly dark days and nights but for all their extended family and friends. It was back to back funerals, after which my mother-in-law had a heart attack, I’m sure from the stress of it all. Thankfully she is still with us. Phil. 4:13 helped then and still does today. I am sorry for your loss but grateful for salvation!

  37. Excruciating grief. God is faithful, and the way you have dealt with this crisis reminds me of Amy Carmichael’s words: “In acceptance lieth peace.”

  38. Sarah says:

    Beautiful writing. I found you on Literacy Musing Mondays.

    I know God helped me when my uncle died of cancer 10 years ago. To read Romans 8:28 and be assured that God would bring some good out of what had happened. To read Romans 12:2 and see that God’s will is perfect – even when it really didn’t seem like it.

    I can’t imagine how it must have been for you to lose so much so suddenly, but I’m glad you’ve got God beside you now, and praying He’ll carry on loving you through it.

    • womenabiding says:

      I’m sorry to hear about your uncle, Sarah. And yes! God always brings good out of sadness, as He does with everything for those who love Him and walk according to His purposes.

      Thank you for stopping by today! 🙂

  39. blessings on you as you continue to reach out to others with your story of great grief.

  40. Sarah Koontz says:

    I am grateful that the Lord has given you the strength to write so eloquently about your loss. He is using you, have no doubt of that. Share your story, and share the Author of your story with anyone and everyone who will crack the doors of their heart to you. Praying the Lord blesses you and your writing ministry in a powerful and tangible way.

    • womenabiding says:

      Wow! Sarah! You have blessed my socks off with your comment, sister! So much so that you’ve opened a little thought in my mind to write a book about all the Lord has done in my life through my grief… Thank you for your encouragement!!! It has meant so much to me!

      • Sarah Koontz says:

        I do think you should very much consider putting the full story down on paper. Use the talents and skills God has given you to tell what He has done for you in the midst of such a trial. I have been hearing a lot about the concept of blogging a book. That might be a really interesting way to start. Lay out the content by “subjects/chapters/smaller stories” and then write a blog series on it. If that is well received, you can fill out the story and put it into an e-book or work towards getting published. Best of luck, and keep in touch!

  41. Heather says:

    Amen, and amen! Thank you so much for sharing last week at Tips & Tricks…. I so look forward to everything you share with us. “The joy of holding her daughter and grandchild was to be in a place where no greater joy could be known. The beauty of the rolling, green hills of Ireland was to appear as filth compared to the indescribable beauty of her new surroundings. And the sinful body in which she dwelled for 54 years, was to be replaced with one that would never again know pain, hurt, or discomfort.”…… YES!

    • womenabiding says:

      Thanks for your encouragement, Heather! It’s always a blessing to dwell on things as they really are, even though we may not be able to see them while in this earthly body… God bless you today and always 🙂

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