The dictionary defines low-maintenance as:
“Not requiring a lot of work or attention to maintain.”
I thought it would be a blessing to contemplate some aspects that you could endeavor to practice in becoming a low-maintenance friend to those whom God has brought into your life.
Following are 5 ways that you and I can become the kind of friend that everyone wants:
1. Don’t get easily offended
If we are thick skinned, giving others the benefit of the doubt in every situation, we will save both ourselves and our friends much awkwardness and heartache.
Always believe the best.
Love believes all things – 1 Corinthians 13:7
2. Take initiative. Be the first.
- Be the first to invite without waiting for an invitation.
- Be the first to say sorry rather than anticipating an apology.
- Be the first to offer assistance instead of expecting your friend to reach out to you.
- Be the first. Then go the extra mile!
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly – Proverbs 18:24 (KJV)
3. Listen and Talk
Exemplify a balanced talking/listening stance. Enjoy practicing the skillful art of true listening when your friend has something to share. Offer what is on your heart freely by openly talking, carrying your quotient of communication in the friendship.
4. Treat and spoil
Display a generous and thoughtful heart in spoiling your friend with little treats. Some ways could be to:
- Send her an unexpected card in the mail just to say that you are thankful for her friendship.
- Pick a pretty flower and deliver it to her with a smile.
- Place a yummy treat in her handbag when she’s not looking.
- Email a link of something she would enjoy reading or watching, to show that you are thinking of her.
There are countless creative ways…
He who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty. – Job 6:14
5. Be real!
To me, this is one of the most crucial and important aspects of being a low-maintenance friend!
Not many activities are more draining and discouraging than trying to detect how someone is really doing from behind an “everything’s great” façade.
Reveal the true circumstances of your life to friends that you trust. Vulnerability, honesty, truthfulness, and openness go a long way in saving a sister the guesswork (feel free to tweet that), giving her the privilege and opportunity to speak into your life.
Whoever speaks the truth gives honest evidence, but a false witness utters deceit. Proverbs 12:17
I would love to hear any other suggestion that you have for being a low-maintenance friend?
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