For my primary years, I attended a private school, since my mother was a teacher there, and we got a huge discount on the fees. It was a good academic education, but I struggled socially. Every single person in the school was super wealthy! We’re talking golf courses in their back gardens. I had a couple of friends who didn’t only have their own room, they had their own floor! They had their own private servant, and needless to say had whatever material possession they desired at their fingertip.
My family on the other hand were the only ones who lived in an apartment building in a questionable part of town. I shared a room with my two sisters, and we literally scrounged for every penny.
When I was 9 years old, my mother very generously threw me a birthday party and invited several of my classmates. All I remember from that event was them snickering and pointing at me, and when they weren’t doing that, they looked bored out of their minds. I felt utterly humiliated to the very core of my being.
I’d like to tell you that that incident had no affect on me
But that would be a lie.
Let’s just say that from that day on, I literally had not a single friend over until I was 28 years old! Never through all my years as a teenager, young adult and newly married woman, did I have a single friend step into my house!
God has brought me such a long way, and my husband and I host hundreds of people a year now, but it is only because of His healing and transformation that I am now able to have people (and friends, in particular) over.
When I was recently introduced to a book, I knew that it held the secret to what I had experienced all those many years ago.
It’s not unusual to get a recommendation for a good book. We’ll either invest in buying it or borrow a copy, and we will agree that it was a “good” book. But when was the last time you read a book that was so challenging, so deep-searching, and so profound that it’s very words effected change in you?
A book in which the author holds nothing back as her words cut to the very heart, confronting who you are, where you’ve been, how your life experiences and choices have and continue to affect you, and most importantly, what to do with one aspect of yourself that you most probably don’t even realise you are carrying:
Whether it’s related to relationships, body image, or a secret sin…We all experience shame at some point in our lives. Click To Tweet
In Unashamed: Healing Our Brokenness and Finding Freedom From Shame, Heather Nelson Davis shines the life-giving light of the Gospel on the things that leave us feeling worthless and rejected, giving us courage to walk out of shame’s shadows and offering hope for liberty.
The author places a magnifying glass in your hand and helps you to hover it over hindrances, hardships, and hangups up in your life. You will immediately identify, based on several examples that she lays out, some areas of shame that you thought were just part of your personality or temperament. In other cases, you’ll finally be able to give a name to issues that have held you back for years (as I did in my long standing struggle with hospitality). Freedom here we come!
Issues such as body shame, shame in marriage, shame-free parenting, and social shame are covered, among others.
I could tell you story after story of little and big ways that God used this book in beginning a work of freedom in my life. I find I’m no longer wearing shirts that will hide the left over baby-tummy I feel I should have shed by now. I no longer find myself rushing hysterically when someone comes to our home to have it all perfectly neat and tidy. I find I’m acutely more aware of the way I speak to my husband and children – stopping myself abruptly of things I would usually have said to them, now realizing how I was shaming them L.
It’s mind blowing just how much the Bible speaks about shame. And while we usually glaze over this hidden hurt that is behind many of our struggles, it is to be swept under the rug no more as we pray with the Psalmist:
In You, O Lord, do I take refuge; let me never be put to shame;
in Your righteousness deliver me!
I am absolutely delighted and honoured that Heather Davis Nelson and Crossway have most generously offered to give away 3 copies of Heather’s beautiful, newly released Unashamed: Healing Our Brokenness and Finding Freedom From Shame
Can’t wait to get your hands on Unashamed?
Purchase as a gift for yourself and a friend 🙂