Do you feel as though you are the worst mom in the world? If you do, join the club! Lately so many moms have confided in me that they think they are the worst mom in the world. When they confess this discovery about themselves, they speak in low tones and draw close to ensure that no one hears them. They are ashamed of their parenting, and feel like total failures.
The amazing thing is that these moms who have shared that they feel like they’re the worst mothers in the world, are actually the best mothers I know! They are devoted, caring, loving, and dedicated moms who see their life calling as nurturing their young ones and giving them a firm foundation for their future life on earth.
Somewhere along the line, as these mothers have, you too may have judged your parenting by a certain standard which you feel you have not reached.
Perhaps you have:
- Been disappointed by the way one or more of your children are ‘turning out.’
- Been disheartened by unwise decisions that your children are making.
- Been disrespected and dishonoured by your children
- Been frustrated at the lack of obedience and desire to serve that you would have expected your children to have mastered by now.
As moms, we often evaluate ourselves by what our children are doing, saying, or struggling with.
Perhaps you can relate to having had these thoughts at some point, or you’re feeling dealing with these very issues today.
We want to be great moms, and believe that if our children are all that we would hope them to be, we must be doing something right. Alternatively, if our children are being unpredictable and making choices that we hoped they wouldn’t make, that we must be doing everything wrong. Hence the conclusion that we’re the worst moms in the world.
And it hurts. And it’s hard.
Yet another reason you may be feeling this way
As if that isn’t a hard enough cause for feeling this way, there is another reason you may feel down. Your likely perception of being a failure to be as godly as you ought to be. You see your own sin, you feel guilty for not exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit to a greater degree for your children to emulate, and you are devastated that you are not measuring up as the godly mother you desire to be.
I know this side of the argument all too well. I go to bed each evening praying for the Lord to forgive my sins and shortcomings of the day, intending with all of my heart to be holier and more righteous! And guess what?! By the time breakfast is over the next morning, I’ve already blown it – sometimes big time!
The truth is though, that children are resilient and they are forgiving. They love their mom unconditionally, just as you love them unconditionally. And as long as we are humbling ourselves before them, and asking for their forgiveness when we have sinned against them, they’re fine. Honestly, most of the time you can ask your child a couple of days later about the incident and they won’t even remember what you’re talking about. We can actually learn so much from children in this way.
Not only do they forgive, more often than not they also forget!Being an example to our children of a sinful and imperfect mom is exactly what they need! Click To Tweet
When they see their mom fail, get up by God’s grace and try again, and when they witness their mom prayerfully growing in the fruit of the Spirit, they are learning what real life is about, and what real faith is about!
Putting things into perspective
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not as though we can just let ourselves go. Our calling, as mothers, is to be faithful to follow what the Word of God teaches consistently in how we parent. To aim to set godly examples, and to walk humbly before our Lord in the large and small tasks that He has for us to perform daily.
Sure we fail at times… okay most of the time… but overall if our hearts are submitted to His will, and if we are following Him drawing from His strength, we can trust that In His infinite wisdom He gives each child the perfect mom for them!You are the only mother your children need, and love. Click To Tweet
Enjoy them, and rest in His grace.
God’s grace is sufficient to bridge the gaps of imperfect parenting, and thankfully, by His kindness, love covers a multitude of sins! As you love the living daylights out of your children, His love covers the multitude of your sins, and what they see is His everlasting Life flowing through you.
What is it about your parenting that makes you feel like the worst mom in the world? What can you focus on in God’s Word that will help change your mindset? (Comment below)
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