The Decision That Will Change Everything

We all go through so many different kinds of circumstances in our lives – wedding, childbirth, sickness, job changes, church issues, death of loved ones, and a thousand other varieties of joys and trials.

Well, my family and I are in the process of one of the more trying circumstances of life at the moment – moving house! And as if that isn’t challenging enough with five beautiful children in tow (and all their stuff), the house we are heading to won’t be available for another couple of months yet, so we are in a temporary location – a campground – until then.

I must confess that it’s a New Zealand campground, which is probably the most beautiful kind of campground you can get. Check out our serene view here:


Not too shabby, is it? However, it’s not home, and as homey as we’re trying to make it for the next 10 weeks, it is a stop over… a transition we would have rather avoided.

Our eldest children, aged 12 and 15, feel isolated, disoriented, and pretty miserable, to be honest. And it’s not as hunky-dory a time as I was hoping it would be.

But here’s the thing; this life of ours – and yours – is so temporal, so short, so trivial, while eternity is so permanent, weighty, and everlasting – and…

God is *always* more interested in our immortal souls than in our momentary earthly comfort. Click To Tweet


Each and every circumstance that you and I will ever go through during our lifetimes, is carefully designed and custom planned for one reason only – to transform our character further into the likeness of Jesus.

Whatever you’re going through this very day, this very week, is literally the working of God in action in your very soul. Through your current circumstances He is morphing your discontent attitude into one of contentedness, your ungrateful heart into a heart of thanksgiving, He’s changing your anger into peace, your impatience into quiet forebearance, and your distrust into a far deeper faith.

Our part, as believers, in this drama called life, is to surrender.

The Decision That Will Change Everything

I recently found myself in a situation where I learned this lesson of surrendering.

I love the well known hymn, I Surrender All, but yet I realized that I hadn’t done just that when I was faced with a potential D&C following a miscarriage. The last thing I wanted was a D&C. I felt it’s an invasive medical procedure, and I was fighting not to go through it.

But, I knew within myself that there was far more than meets the eye in this circumstance than a surgery. My heart was the object on that operating table, and not my womb!

God dealt with me through this trial and convicted me of not surrendering my “all” to Him. I was holding on to my body, and not giving that to Him to do with what He saw fit to do.

I chose to surrender

It was a far longer process in my soul than typing in those four words was, I assure you. But His peace overtook me.

[I’ve made the point I want to make here, which is to surrender to the Lord and allow Him to bring about whatever He wishes into our lives. But I will just say that when I went to the hospital for my appointment to schedule in the D&C, the most amazing thing happened. The doctor opened up the consultation explaining that she had reviewed my case, and that it seems I will not need a D&C after all! I was gobsmacked.]

I’m not saying that if you surrender to the Lord in every trial you go through, He will completely take it away – it would be great if God decided to do that. But in this case, my Father had accomplished the work that He set out to achieve in my heart, and so He graciously withdrew the tool He used to do it.

A Final Word

God is at work in your life, my friend. Every crisis no matter how great or small, is His divine intervention to transform you into His image, in preparation for Heaven!

Embrace His wisdom in bringing what He does into your lap. Surrender your life to Him, to His intricate workings, to His loving shaping. This time and these exact circumstances in which you find yourselves are gifts from His Hand.

Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver;

I have tried you in the furnace of affliction.

Isaiah 48:10

How do you see God’s fingerprints in your life through what you’re going through right now? I’d love to hear… 

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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.

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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.
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61 Responses to The Decision That Will Change Everything

  1. Thank you, i needed to hear this at the moment. Thank you for your encouragement and wisdom. Blessings

  2. June says:

    What a beautiful testimony, Tehila! I can relate a bit to your current “temporary” circumstances. My husband and I gave up our cottage to a needy family member five months ago and have been living in an RV while we await a new home. The situation hasn’t turned out exactly as we hoped, but we’ve been blessed by our obedience none-the-less. May you rest in the beauty of your surroundings and the comfort of His presence while you wait.

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh wow, June! What a blessing you are! May God grant you much grace and reward you greatly for your incredible and loving sacrifice! Your powerful example of generosity and kindness will be told for generations by those who know you, I’m sure! Big hugs xoxo

  3. Cheryl says:

    I really, really needed to read this tonight! It occurred to me as I read your story concerning the D&C that God does not always require the sacrifices He asks us to consecrate to make. Case in point, God never intended for Abraham to sacrifice his son, Isaac, but He wanted to bring Abraham to a place of willingness to do so. Peace is surely found in surrender, as you said. Beautiful, beautiful post, sweet friend. Concerning your move, my family and I had a similar experience last summer when we moved from one state to another. The transition was HARD. But, God taught us many lessons, in the process. I trust this time with your family will bring all of you closer to Him and to each other and that you will look back upon it with the fondest of memories.

    • womenabiding says:

      Darling Cheryl, thank you so much for your lovely response to this post. What an encouragement! I loved loved loved how you pointed out the similarity between my story to Abraham being willing to sacrifice Isaac, but how God prevented him from doing so once his faith had been proven… I don’t know why I didn’t think of that in this context! Well done, precious sister! Your comment was a blessing from A-Z! Thank you and God bless you for your ministry of being such an inspiration in your walk with our Great God! Hugs and love xoxo

  4. Your honesty is encouraging here. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Tracey says:

    I try to never sing the words to “I Surrender All” lightly! Yet it is what our Savior asks of us – to surrender every area of our life to Him, including our hopes and dreams. So thankful we can trust that what He has planned for us is what is always best for us, even when we don’t see it in the moment. Surely I owe Him full surrender as an act of gratitude and worship for all He has done for me!!

    • womenabiding says:

      I hear ya, sister! I absolutely love your perspective on surrendering… Being confronted with the concept of full surrender always convicts me, as even when I sing it and offer myself in surrender to the Lord, I always fear there are parts of my life that I may be holding back, even without my knowledge, but in full view of His gaze… It is only His grace which even allows us to give Him our all… You’re a great blessing, Tracey! Love xoxo

  6. Monique Veal says:


    I am so excited and encouraged that you did not have to go through a D&C. God is our Great Physician. What really caught my attention was the response of God regarding your attitude towards having a D&C. He wants us to surrender our all to Him even our bodies. I know that our bodies are the temple of God’s Spirit. We must take care of our bodies the best way that we can and allow God to do the rest. Your story is helping my faith in healing to grow stronger. I am no stranger to God’s healing, however, this situation was unique and something to truly get excited about. Thank you for sharing your life and heart with us.

    Monique R. Veal

    • womenabiding says:

      Darling Monique! You’re so right… God does amazing things in amazing (and often unexpected) ways! May God bless you, my friend! I’m so encouraged by your beautiful friendship! xoxo

  7. Sarah Koontz says:

    Surrender is a daily battle for me, but it is the best battle. God is so faithful to us, and His path may not be easy, but it is the path I want to walk. Thank you for this beautiful reminder today.

    • womenabiding says:

      Thank you for your precious comment, Sarah! Yes, surrender is not an action that comes naturally to our fleshly selves… but a holy choice that reaps so many rewards as we present ourselves as living sacrifices to our Lord! You are a joy to me, my friend xoxo

  8. Lisa says:

    A dear friend and I have been studying SURRENDER using Nancy Leigh DeMoss’s book. I have learned a LOT. Learning doesn’t always translate into DOING – still working on that part. (!) I am struggling. Kudos to you for your obedience. Your message spoke to me, thanks so much for sharing it.

    Nancy has a very complete, reflective ‘list’ if you will that can really help you examine yourself on the subject of Surrender. I highly recommend it if you’re up for the challenge!

    • womenabiding says:

      Lisa, thank you so very much for your invaluable input here! Beautiful! I’ll definitely check out the resource you recommend! With much love and appreciation xoxo

  9. Brenda says:

    Tehila, I’m sorry for your loss. ((hug)) Thank you for sharing, so vulnerably, this object lesson on surrender. And, wow–that’s some beautiful scenery where you are. 🙂 ((blessings))

  10. Liz says:

    WOW!! Camping for 10 weeks! You go, girl! I will lift your family up in prayer! Thanks for a beautiful message today. Surrender is so much more strategic than simply giving up.

    • womenabiding says:

      Well, we’re not really camping, we’re glamping (glamorous camping in a real house!) 🙂 SO much appreciate your prayers… Love and hugs to you xoxo

  11. Tehila, thank you for sharing the real deal here. Elisabeth Elliot used to say that we don’t surrender ourselves all in one big act, but, rather, in little daily deaths to self. Thank you for putting this on display for us.

  12. Ginger says:

    Thank you for this reminder.

  13. Carol O says:

    Surrendering is faith in action. The peace that follows is the sweetest.

  14. Hi Tehila,
    I SO understand that surrender “thing”! Years ago, Jesus walked me through surrender in our attempts to bring our Selah home. It was only after fully surrendering, was I able to feel the peace He offers. Thanks so much for sharing this great big dose of hope, my friend.

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh, my friend… I can only imagine how hard that must have been for you – but what a testimony you are in having learned such a valuable lesson from the Lord! You’re an inspiration xoxo

  15. Heather Hart says:

    It’s amazing how much our attitude and willingness to surrender can transform any situation for good or bad.

  16. Jann Olson says:

    Thank you! It’s hard for us to admit that God always knows what is best for us. Thanks for sharing with SYC.

  17. Jessica P says:

    Thank you so much for this wonderful post! Over the past 1.5 years of marriage I’ve been learning to continually surrender to God, especially in terms of knowing where our future lies. He is SO FAITHFUL! When we rest in Him it really does change everything. Bless you!

    • womenabiding says:

      Yes, Jessica… God uses marriage in huge ways to teach us to surrender, both in our present and our future. I love your joyful and truthful perspective! Loved having you stop by… hugs xoxo

  18. Johanna says:

    God has been teaching me to surrender just this week. I’m working on it. That is very encouraging thank you!

  19. Amy Hagerup says:

    This is a great reminder. I truly believe that surrender to what the Lord wants every single day is vital to us all.

  20. So encouraged by your testimony! God sure honoured your surrendering! Just found you via Literacy Musing Mondays….glad I did xx

  21. Diana says:

    “Each and every circumstance that you and I will ever go through during our lifetimes, is carefully designed and custom planned for one reason only – to transform our character further into the likeness of Jesus.” Encouraged by your Testimony.

    I experienced God’s fingerprints in my life during my high risk pregnancy and birth of my triplets(born prematurely) -Custom planned just for this mama.


    • womenabiding says:

      You’re my hero, Diana! Triplets!! And with such grace….. Your custom planned by Jesus circumstances have clearly made you even more faith-filled and beautiful! xoxo

  22. Julie says:

    This was so soothing to my heart today! Thank you for this reminder!
    I hope the next 10 weeks go fast and you’re in your new home soon!

  23. So lovely to hear your testimony, Tehila. Always so encouraging to read your posts. I guess 10 weeks will fly and you will all be on your way. I can imagine how hard it must be on the older children. Shifting is such a challenge at any time, but being in transition and not being able to unpack properly has its stresses. How awesome that the Lord is sufficient for our trials, hard as they are. God continue to strengthen you after all you have recently been through.

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  24. Nicki Faust says:

    I really enjoyed this post and am going to share it with others. I co-lead a chronic illness support group and we are trying to reach out to our members between our monthly meetings; I’m going to start by sharing this post with them. It is so encouraging to hear how God is working in you and through you!

  25. What a great reminder! Thank you for sharing at Mommy Moments last week! This was the top viewed link and will be featured in this week’s link up!

  26. Lizzie Roles says:

    I’m so relieved you didn’t have to go through the D&C procedure, God was certainly faithful in response to your faithfulness. #sharethejoy

  27. Brandi Raae says:

    That is a beautiful view – looks like hobbits would appear around the bend at any moment. 😉 Such a beautiful reminder that it is God working in our lives to make us more like Him. Thanks for sharing at Literacy Musing Mondays!

    • womenabiding says:

      You’re funny 🙂 God is indeed powerfully at work, Brandi! I’m just amazed and stand in awe daily at His goodness and workings in my life and the lives of His other children… May He bless you today, my friend xoxo

  28. Sandra J says:

    Thanks for a beautiful post. Your sweet message is hard earned, and your gratefulness – fruit of hard choices is lovely. “Our part, as believers, in this drama called life, is to surrender.” Thanks for the reminders…. Visiting from Holley’s.

  29. Mary Hill says:

    Hi, thank you so much for your support. You were the most clicked this week on the #LMMLinkup. 😉

  30. Having a son with special needs has taught me the truth about refining my character. He is now almost five, but if he gets a slight fever it sends me straight back to fears of seizures or long intensive care stays. The Lord has blessed him with a now strong immune system, but I remember the days when he had a trach and I everything through the lens of germs and potential infections. I am so blessed to have learned (though I still forget) to abide in God for each moment.

  31. Jann Olson says:

    Sometimes things are difficult, but if we stay positive and do the best we can the Lord will bless us! Thanks for sharing with SYC.

    • womenabiding says:

      Very true 🙂 Unfortunately there are no guarantees that we’ll be blessed, it’s only by God’s grace, but surrendering and focusing on Him certainly will keep us on the right path xoxo

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