A Letter To The Mother Of Young Children

Dear Mama,

There are a few ways in which I would like to encourage you today. Yes you. The one who finds herself in the midst of sleep-deprived nights, load after load of laundry, toys on floors, and noisy days.

I know that you love your children, and how your heart is to lay down your very life for them. You have given up your dreams (for now), your own ideals of a gorgeous, tidy, Pinterest-style house, your space and your silence, in order to pour your very existence into the hearts and lives of your little ones.

You are to be applauded! You are to be praised, dear mom! While thank you’s are scarce, and mess is much, you keep on day after day pouring drinks, spoon feeding mush, and wiping little noses and bottoms!

I’ve been there my fellow mama. In fact, I’m still there now. But, even though I have a 3 year old, and an 8 month old, I also have already somehow managed to raise the delicate souls of a 13, 11, and 7 year old (without breaking them!). I’m not much further ahead than you, but just enough to know that:

It gets easier!

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Children actually do grow up it seems. They learn to walk by themselves at some point. They become capable of grabbing a snack by themselves. At some stage, with some encouragement, they begin to tidy up after themselves. Then before you know it, they are allowed to cross the road by themselves. And ultimately they communicate (in language that you can actually understand) by themselves!

And as each of these and many other milestones are reached, you will find that moment by moment, task by task, life will get a little easier for you. It will go from extreme physical to more spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and verbal in nature.

At times, you will long for the simplicity of meeting your children’s needs simply by picking them up or changing their diapers. These needs, though they seem endless and trying now, will eventually be missed when you find yourself having to explain the complexity behind a decision you’ve made, or comforting your child’s deep hurts of rejection from a friend.

These days of meeting your baby’s every physical need and pretending you understand your toddler who is rattling off in some mysterious sounding language, and toilet training your child who you’re convinced should have mastered the act months ago… these are the good ol’ days!

Enjoy them. Appreciate them. Savour them. Tweet that

Remember that God so lovingly placed this little verse in the Bible just for you (Isaiah 40:11):

He tends his flock like a shepherd:

    He gathers the lambs in his arms

and carries them close to his heart;

    He gently leads those that have young.

That’s you, sweet friend! That’s you….

As you lead your young flock, He leads you. You are in His arms. And they’re not just any arms.

The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms.

Deuteronomy 33:27

Those everlasting arms surround you when you’re feeling faint with exhaustion.

Those everlasting arms support yours when you would rather give up.

Those everlasting arms give yours strength to tackle the daily tasks with which you’re faced.

Oh, I know that it’s a joy for you to serve your precious little gifts, but I also know how invisible you sometimes feel.

How you miss the old you – the capable one who could figure things out, the intelligent one who would read books and contribute to adult conversations, the one who could actually make a cup of coffee and drink it will it’s still hot (not one you made 3 hours ago and never got to drink past the first sip!).

Well, that part of parenting does get easier! Even though your little ones are adorable at the stage they’re at, in order for them to reach the next stage, the more independent one, you need to get them through this one first.

Not alone. Not by your own strength. But with the ever-present help of the One who leads you and has His everlasting arms wrapped tightly around you.

Keep on, dear sister. And sneak in time to smile, to breathe, and to delight in these good ol’ days!

With my love and big hugs,

Tehila

P.S. What would most encourage you on your journey during this season of your life? 


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Tehila is an Israeli, God-loving, husband-serving, child-nurturing mom of five sweet little ones whom she homeschools. She resides in beautiful New Zealand from where she blogs at Women Abiding – Encouraging women to abide in God and His Word.
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46 Responses to A Letter To The Mother Of Young Children

  1. Ruth says:

    Hi Tehila,
    I relate to what you have written here as a mother to 5 children ranging from 16 down through 14, 10, 7 to 18 months. I know that you didn’t mean to be discouraging when you said that “These are the good old days” but I would have to say, as a mother to a wonderful young man who is stepping out into the brink of adulthood… each stage holds wonderful moments and other moments of downright hard work! I would hate to think anyone would read that as, “It all goes downhill from here.” I was given advice as a young woman about to get married to “enjoy each stage when you are in it” and not to “wish my life away” by assuming the next stage would be easier or better and I think that is such wonderful advice.

    Having said that, when I am really busy and I am examining my head as to what could possibly have convinced me 5 children was doable, I think to myself, “If I ever had 10 children I would look back and think 5 children was so easy!” so I should just enjoy having my easy 5 children now! I guess it is all in one’s perspective and expectations. Enjoy the season you are in Tehila and bless you for seeking to encourage other mothers in theirs. Ruth

    • womenabiding says:

      Dearest Ruth, Thank you so very much for your comment. I greatly appreciate your input, and giving me the chance to clarify. You’re right that I didn’t mean to be discouraging when I said “These are the good old days” regarding when your children are young. The truth is that I look at each and every stage of life as the ‘good ol’ days!’ so I guess I assumed that people would know that… but I see now how foolish that is without making it clear that I’m not referring only to the stage when moms have young children.

      I have also found, like you, that each stage is absolutely beautiful. And there are easier and harder aspects of each stage that our children go through, too.

      I laughed when you mentioned about having 10 children and 5 seeming easy. A couple of months ago our two eldest children were away at camp, and we *only* had 3 at home for a week. My husband and I were scratching our heads and trying to remember whether having just three was this easy… because we certainly don’t remember it being easy back then 🙂 but now taking 2 out of the equation does make it seem like a piece of cake 🙂

      Ruth, I appreciate you and love that you cared enough to comment and give me your invaluable feedback!
      With my love xoxo

  2. Mary Hill says:

    I love that you want to inspire and encourage young mothers. Your tips are so sweet. Please share on Literacy Musing Mondays. I hope you will join our growing community. Here is this week’s links:

    http://maryanderingcreatively.com/literacy-musing-mondays-is-growing/

  3. Anastasia says:

    Great letter, the days seem long but the weeks and months fly by. It is getting easier now that my oldest is 5, trying to embrace that!

    • womenabiding says:

      How right you are, Anastasia! Glad it’s already a little easier for you… Keep up the fantastic job you’re doing… Great is your reward in Heaven!!! xoxo

  4. An encouragement that every new mom needs to hear! Thanks for joining the Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop!

  5. MB says:

    I’m sure this is a wonderful encouragement to many mums out there! Bless you xx

  6. Barbie says:

    Thank you for sharing at Weekend Whispers.

  7. Helene says:

    I have a 14 and 7 year old and I have to admit I don’t miss the diapers and baby days. 🙂 Big kids are my favorite! But wishing your days away is never a good plan!

  8. Amanda says:

    What a wonderfully encouraging post. I am the mommy of 4, and I could have really used this encouragement when I my two youngest were little (set of boy/girl twins). Thank you for allowing God to use you to bless young moms. It is very true: It DOES get better! Visiting from Making Your Home Sing link up. Have a blessed day! http://www.ruckusandrubies.com

    • womenabiding says:

      Thanks Amanda! I take my hat off to you for surviving twins. I’ve always thought it would be great to save on a birth that way, but that the price to pay after would be heavy. You are one awesome mom! You have encouraged me greatly today, girlfriend! xox

  9. Sharita says:

    Such an encouraging post! Thank you… My kiddo is getting older and more fun by the day– and I celebrate the moments of victory– like finally getting to vacuum the floor after who-knows-how-long. 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      Hi Sharita (beautiful name!). Thanks for your comment… I too have found that it’s those little, mundane things that I can get done now that I couldn’t before, that are the ones I most appreciate 🙂

  10. Hil says:

    Being a mom is definitely hard and challenging. I say this as I am up at 5 am lol with my baby.

    • womenabiding says:

      You’re my heroine, Hil! You’re making the sacrifices and you sound like you’re making them with a smile! Keep up your beautiful dedication! God bless you xoxo

  11. Jann Olosn says:

    Fabulous! Yes, it does get easier. Someday young mothers will look back and cherish the days when their kids were little! Thanks for sharing with SYC.
    hugs,
    Jann

  12. Heather says:

    I’m thinking I should print this out & begin a “Mommy Notebook” (really, any excuse for a binder lol!). We are expecting our first any day & could not be more excited! My husband is out in the garage building the changing table as I type 🙂 However, I know there will probably come a day in the near future when I will need to reread this!

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh how exciting, Heather!!! Keeping posts and other bits and pieces from moms who have been there is a great idea, and I’m sure will prove helpful… You have soooo much to look forward to! Being a mom is AMAZING!!! May God prepare you in every way and equip you to do His wonderful work in the life of your precious babe! Love and hugs xoxo

  13. What a nice post, encouraging and empowering young mothers is a wonderful thing to do. It is not easy being young, not to mention definitely not easy becoming a mom. However it can be done in the best of ways.

    Being able to seeing our girls grow is such a blessing for us. We try to enjoy every second as they do grow so fast.

  14. Carrie says:

    I’m actually heart torn because while I agree the endless demands on us mothers slows as the children grow, other concerns bubble up. Now the moments become filled with events out of my control (especially with a maturing teen in the house), like how she handles peer pressure or her thoughts on negative trends. Sometimes I really miss when they were all small – at least then I was the center of their world :). I agree with you – relish every second and never stop praying for your children’s hearts to turn toward God.

  15. Carolyn says:

    My mother-in-law always says, “little children, little problems, big children, big problems.” It’s easy to long for the diaper days to be over, but I’m realizing now, having a tween, things are only starting to get complicated. Thank goodness we grow along the way as well! Hopping by from Literacy Musing Mondays

    • womenabiding says:

      Your mother-in-law sounds like a wise woman, Carolyn 🙂 I was amazed at what a turn around the tween years were with my daughter (who just turned 14)… I devoted so much time and prayer into her, as I still do (more than all of the other 4 children!)… May the Lord bless you as you nurture your tween now and in the years to come! Thank you so much for stopping by at Women Abiding (and please forgive the late response)! xoxo

  16. Sylvia says:

    Thanks for sharing at Faith, Hope, and Love!

  17. Melanie says:

    My daughters are 5 and 3, and we’ve just begun homeschooling so we’re together 24/7. Thank you for this letter. I needed to read it today.

    Here via Grace & Truth.

    • womenabiding says:

      Yayyy!!!! A fellow homeschooler!!! 🙂 I homeschool our 5 children aged 14 to 10 months old. It can indeed by challenging, as you’ve already found out, BUT, it is sooooo worth it. Nothing on earth can replace the beauty, the closeness, and the blessing in training and nurturing our children 24/7. I’m truly proud of you making this hard but rewarding choice. God bless bless bless you!!!! <3

  18. Julie says:

    Lovely post! Such an encouragement to me as my son is just under two years old. It’s a sweet stage but boy is it exhausting at times. Thanks for the encouraging reminder 🙂

  19. Lux says:

    So beautiful. I wish to remember this when I get to this stage. 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      Do! You’re blessed to have so many resources at your fingertips for when you need the info and encouragement… God bless you during all the stages of your life! 🙂

  20. Jessica says:

    This is just what I needed to read today. I have a two year old, a one year old, and am four weeks from my due date. I don’t even know where my feet are anymore, and I have come down with a terrible cold. Your words, in this moment, help so much. Thank you

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh, Jessica… how are YOU? Have you had your little baby yet. What a difficult time you’re going through, but my advice would be just to take one little thing at a time. One task at a time. What’s next, dinner? Make dinner. What’s after that? Brush the kiddies teeth? Brush their teeth. Literally baby steps, and you’ll get through each day. You are a brave lady, and I am so blessed to have had you stop by! Let me know how you’re doing 🙂 xox

  21. Jen Ferguson says:

    I love that verse from Isaiah – it makes me feel so seen and loved and cherished.

  22. All moms need encouragement, so thank you for this! They do grow up so fast. As hard as times can be, I’m trying to remember that it’s a moment in time and in the grand scheme of things my daughter is a pretty good little girl.

    • womenabiding says:

      That’s wonderful to hear, Tiffany! She sounds like a blessed little girl to have you for a mom! It gets easier 🙂 Hang in there and savour this precious time. You’re doing sooooo great! xox

  23. Steph says:

    Simply lovely and quite well timed. Thank you for the blessed encouragement!

  24. Mary Hill says:

    So true as the children grow into the teen years the care you give is less physical and more mentoring, encouraging, and guiding. Thanks for sharing on Literacy Musing Mondays. 🙂

  25. This is beautiful encouragement for moms, Tehila. You are so right that the “littles” stage passes. And yes parenting gets easier, (then it gets harder again, I think, after about age 14!) I love and enjoy my teens, but the spiritual burden is greater, and sometimes I think they need me more than when they were little! Or just as much as…I love that Isaiah verse. I can hardly believe my oldest leaves home again in 5 weeks for his 2nd year at university! #TestimonyTuesday

    • womenabiding says:

      Betsy! I must make a note to read your comment every day and twice on Sundays 🙂 How beautiful! How encouraging! I have children at both ends at the moment with our eldest being a 14 year old young lady, and our youngest being 18 months old (with 4, 8, and 11 year olds in between). So I’m very much still in the “littles” stage but trying to balance that with the vast amounts of attention and affection and input that our teen girl needs. Would you mind clarifying what you mean by “it gets harder again after 14.” I need to know what to brace myself for 🙂

      Also, I’d love to know how the spiritual burden gets greater. Do you mean that their salvation becomes a matter of question and seeing them make bad choices and heading on a path that doesn’t bear godly fruit is what is hard to watch and observe?

      I hope you don’t mind me picking your brain… You’re just obviously such a beautiful, Godly woman, with so much experience, and I’d love to learn from you!

      With love xoxo

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