23 Life Skills I Wish My Mother Had Taught Me (And That You Can Pass on To Your Daughter) + Giveaway!!

What greater privilege is there for a parent than to pass on both spiritual truth and practical tools to live with on this earth?

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There are many ways you and I can leave a spiritual legacy for our children.

  • Living a Godly life as an example for your daughters and sons to emulate would be a glorifying choice.
  • Establishing meaningful traditions and a beautiful family culture is another way.
  • While maintaining a stable marriage which instills a sense of security into your children is yet another.

One way that you could also impart a tangible legacy is to pass on practical tips which you have come to learn over your years both by wisdom and experience.

I have been keeping a running list that has culminated into the following 23 pieces of advice to leave as a legacy for our children, and that I believe would greatly benefit our daughters especially should they follow these.

I hope you will find them helpful both for yourself and perhaps as some guidelines for jotting down your own for your children after you…

I have divided these up into the three S’s; Spiritual, Social, and Sensible

Spiritual

  1. Have a regular time during each day to read and study the Bible, and pray. I recently fell so behind in this, and realized that I was attempting to stick with the accepted time of mornings to execute my Bible reading and prayer. By the grace of God I had an ‘Aha!’ moment that I could do this in the evening before I go to sleep. It has been absolutely wonderful to have this quiet time as I close my day, thanking God and dedicating the next 24 hours to Him. I wake up sensing the peace of God in a way I hadn’t before. All that to say, find a time that suits you daily, whenever it may be!
  1. Glean at least one gem to take with you into life from every book you read and sermon you hear.
  1. Each day begins the night before. This is a biblical principle laid out since Genesis! God gives us hints about this idea even into the New Testament where He commands us to “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger” (Ephesians 4:26). He clearly shows us that if we are angry the evening before, that anger will continue into the following day. We need to remember, along these lines, that whatever we carry with us from the evening before, is the way we will begin the following day. Therefore, be sure to end your days on a good, clear note.
  1. Whenever you tell someone that you will pray for them, do it as soon as you can, so that you can honour that commitment. It is surprising how quickly one can forget these promises, and it is not honouring to the Lord to neglect these pledges.
  1. Be ministry minded! When you buy a house, choose one where you can host guests and weary travellers. When you buy a car, pick one with an extra seat or two so that you can give people rides when necessary. When you budget, leave some money aside to bless others or to give to those in need. In every situation you come across in life, make choices that would include serving and considering others, for the Lord’s sake.
  1. When hearing a Scripture reference and wanting to write it down (book, chapter and verse number), write the numbers down first, and then the book name. You are far more likely to forget the numbers by the time you write down the name of the book, so once you have the digits down, jot down the Bible book in front of it, and you’re good to go :-).

Social

  1. Whenever you visit someone, always bring something with you such as baking, a small gift, etc. Never come empty handed.
  1. Create a time buffer when going somewhere. So, if you need to be at a meeting at 10am, and it takes you 15 minutes to reach the location, leave 25 minutes prior in order to reach there in good time. As a wise friend once told me, “If you’re on time, you’re late.” 🙂
  1. Do the important before it gets urgent. If you need to purchase and wrap a gift for a birthday party on January 18th, purchase the gift by January 15th, and wrap it by the 16th, so that it’s ready in plenty of time. Or if you have a project to hand in on the 12th, have it completed by the 5th. This habit in itself will save your child large quantities of stress in life, and will turn potentially nail biting situations into seasons of confidence and peace.
  1. When planning an outing or meeting by email or phone, give and take as many details as possible at a time, to avoid any unnecessary correspondence and time being spent. It’s amazing how much time of going back and forth can be saved by anticipating questions that can come up and answering those in advance.
  1. Make a big deal of people’s birthdays and anniversaries. This is such a great opportunity to show folks and friends how important and special they are to you. Sending them a text to show that you are thinking of them on the day, sending an ecard/card for the occasion, or phoning them, goes a long way in making people feel valuable and treasured!
  1. If someone shares with you that they are going to undergo surgery, move to a new home, or go on a trip, make a note in your calendar a day or two before the event to contact them to encourage, email, phone and/or pray for them. This will make those with whom you are in touch feel special and will contribute to building meaningful and lasting relationships. The same applies to after an event.  Make a note to contact the person a couple of days after they’ve moved house, had a tooth out, etc, to ask how it went and show them you care.
  1. Ask questions! When you are with people, especially meeting them for the first time and wanting to get to know them, or during uncomfortable situations, always ask them questions about themselves. Take an interest, and genuinely listen. People love to talk about themselves, and asking questions will avoid many an awkward silence, and will more often than not be reciprocated with questions in your direction, leading to flowing and enjoyable conversations.

Sensible

  1. Keep either an online or paper calendar, and use it often. If a bill needs to be paid on a certain date, for example on the 30th of the month, write down in your calendar on the 28th to pay it, including the sum that needs to be paid, the account number, and your customer number. This will save late fees as well as build good rapport with the person or company you are paying. This works for projects that need to be done, too.
  1. Always be reading a good book. Get recommendations from friends for quality reads, or get a hold of books that you see online that come highly recommended. If a book turns out to be spiritually heretical or discouraging, don’t be afraid to stop reading it!
  1. Go to sleep each night by 11pm. Studies have shown that every minute before midnight is worth four minutes after midnight. So simply by going to sleep an hour prior to 12am, you’ll already have gained four hours of sleep!
  1. Meal plan a few days in advance. Another huge stress-reliever. When meal planning, make a shopping list, and be sure to have all the necessary ingredients in the house to have on hand when you need them.
  1. Keep a “Giveaway Cupboard” somewhere in the house. This serves as a temporary storage space to place items that need to be returned to or given to people. Check the “Giveaway Cupboard” regularly before leaving home, in case you can take an item with you to someone you will be seeing that day.
  1. When you are given something yummy to eat, be sure to ask the cook for the recipe. Store all the recipes in a folder or book to pass on to your daughter when she leaves home. (Have her practice making the delicious food while she is still around, for educational purposes of course 😉 ).
  1. Be a chucker, rather than a hoarder. I used to be an obsessive hoarder until I was 22 years old and went away for six months with nothing but what I could fit into a backpack. When I returned, I realized that I hadn’t missed a single thing that I had sitting at home. I got rid of 90% of my belongings, and have been a blissful chucker since! Umpteen studies show that hoarding “stuff” leads to conditions such as depression and feeling overwhelmed, so being a chucker is definitely the healthier option :-).
  1. Be frugal. Purchase gifts from thrift stores, garage sales, and clearance sales. Keep a “Gift Cupboard” and when you want to give someone a gift, shop your Gift Cupboard for that perfect something. This saves huge amounts of money in the long run. If you want to keep it more personal, start looking around for gifts in this way for specific people whom you know have birthdays coming up, a couple of months in advance…
  1. Whenever possible, make wise choices in what you eat. If there is a table laid out with a pasta dish, a hearty vegetable salad, a meat dish, and a pizza, for example, choose the salad and meat dish over the pasta and pizza, being aware that this would be the healthy choice for your body.
  1. Keep a running shopping list in a handy place. Whenever you notice an item in your pantry, fridge, or bathroom running low, take a moment to jot it down on your shopping list. That way, you’ll never run out of anything, and always be stocked up.

I hope to add many more to this list, especially in the spiritual arena, but I hope these have served as a tool to help you get started on your own list. Basically, if you think of some things that you wish someone would have told you at the beginning of your journey, you’ll be heading in the right direction :-).

What are some pieces of life advice that you would share with your own children based on the wisdom and experience that you have benefited from yourself?

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106 Responses to 23 Life Skills I Wish My Mother Had Taught Me (And That You Can Pass on To Your Daughter) + Giveaway!!

  1. Great post! I enjoyed reading and will be sharing with my readers! Thanks for being an encouragement to others!

  2. Anna says:

    This is such good advice! I already do some of these but plan on implementing the rest. Thank you!

    • womenabiding says:

      Wonderful, Anna! I’ve already got some more ideas to pass on to my children, so may need to accumulate those to put in a new blog post some time down the line 🙂 I’m sure each one of us could share pretty cool, practical pearls of wisdom… God bless you!

  3. Mary Geisen says:

    Great ideas! I like the way you organized these ideas because it makes better sense to see them under Social, Spiritual, and Sensible. Thank you for sharing this at The Weekend Brew. This is a list I will print out to keep for myself and to share with my sons.

  4. Lux says:

    Surely great lessons worth passing on to the next generation.

  5. All amazing lessons. Stopping over from the Inspire Me Monday hop, come say hi!

  6. Bibi says:

    This has been such an encouraging post! I still remember my parents telling me that every hour we sleep before 12 counts as double, which is not exactly what research shows right now, but it worked for us at the time 🙂

    I especially like the two cupboard ideas, I will make sure to try and implement them in my house. Thank you so much for sharing the tips!!

    • womenabiding says:

      Thanks Bibi! I’m so glad that some of my ideas may be of use to you. I glean so many helpful tips from others over the years, it’s great to put our heads together and learn to make life more interesting and efficient! God bless you, sweet friend xx

  7. Jen Ferguson says:

    I’m trying to teach my kids how to be “chuckers.” Not only is it good just to be organized, but I don’t want them to fall into the habit of being defined or finding security in their stuff. Great post with lots of wisdom here!

    • womenabiding says:

      That’s inspiring, Jen! I try with my children too, but some just seem to be natural hoarders… Still, they’re probably less obsessive hoarders than they would be if I hadn’t tried to install ‘chucker’ mentality into them, and led by example… Blessings to you, lovely one! x

  8. Sharita says:

    What a post full of wisdom! I do many of these things already but really like the idea of a giveaway cabinet. Thanks for sharing.

  9. Betty says:

    I like number 7 and number 12. I recall having a medical condition that I shared with a friend in the parking lot as she was leaving from work. She immediately prayed with me in the parking lot. I will never forget that. I always use a calendar for the various events, because sometimes I am not able to attend some of them.

  10. Lisa Ehrman says:

    This is a wonderful list. Number 4 is a new one for me. I’ve learned that I have to do this now, since my short-term memory is gone (due to some medicine I’m taking). When I tell someone that I’ll pray for them, I do it immediately. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  11. Sylvia says:

    Awesome advice!! In fact, quite a few I’ve never even thought of before! Thanks for sharing at Faith, Hope, and Love!!

  12. I really like your blog! Thanks for sharing on the Thursday Blog Hop! Blessings for a good week ahead!

  13. Rachel G says:

    These are really great, practical life skills that we should all prioritize making into habits in our individual lives.

  14. Lisa notes says:

    Such a fantastic list! Some of these things I do; others I should start doing. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

  15. Gabby says:

    I think we could all use a little bit of everything here! Especially the spiritual skills! Thank you for linking up with at the Tips and Trick Link Party!

  16. Jann Olosn says:

    Really great tips! My mom taught me many of them, and I have done the same with my children; but always room for improvement! Thanks for sharing with SYC.
    hugs,
    Jann

  17. Hil says:

    I like the time one, I always try to arrive at least 10 minutes early. You never know when something can delay you and it’s rude to be late!

    Visiting from Thursday’s Favorite Things Blog Hop

    • womenabiding says:

      That’s great, Hil! In theory I try to stick to this rule, but with 5 children in tow, I find it hard to actually follow it through at this stage 🙂 Blessings and thanks so much for stopping by, sweet friend! xx

  18. There are some really great tips here! Thanks for linking up at #ThreeWordWednesday.

  19. MB says:

    I have a giveaway box so not quite as neat and tidy as a cupboard 😉 My mum has a giveaway cupboard though! I enjoy picking up little presents and stashing them away for someone to enjoy later.

  20. Great tips – I especially like #4 Whenever you tell someone that you will pray for them, do it as soon as you can. Several years ago our church prayer leader brought in a comic strip that had a gentleman walking into church, the caption read “Oh great here comes Bob. I told him that I would pray for him! Dear God, help Bob. Amen. … Hey Bob, been praying for you.”
    Thanks again – stopping by from #TheWeekendBrew

    • womenabiding says:

      That is so funny, Debbie, and a great illustration of this point! I’ll remember what you shared for a long time to come 🙂 Thanks so much for stopping by, sis!

  21. I love it! I should just print it out and review regularly. I always have to remind myself to do important before it gets urgent. Although at times it feels as if there are so many urgent things on my plate there is no time for important. And sleep! Until very recently I was surviving on about 5 hours of sleep every night but I am much better about it now. (I discovered your blog on Nourishing Joy link up).

    • womenabiding says:

      I’m such a night owl, that sleep is not something I get enough of either, Eva! I can totally relate (especially now that I have a newborn, I get even less sleep!)… So lovely to hear from you xxx

  22. What a great list…great goals to keep in front of us…many blessings to you ❤️

  23. I wish my mom had taught me many of these as well. This is a really wonderful collection of valuable life lessons!

    Visiting from Women w/ Intention Wednesdays. Have a wonderful day 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      Thanks, Michelle! It’s a blessing to jot down these tips for our children. I’m sure you have many I could learn from, too! God bless you sweet lady! xox

  24. Holly Brown says:

    Thank you for sharing this with us at the Grace & Truth link-up! This is such a great list of ideas. I love it so much that I’ll be featuring it for tomorrow’s next round of the link-up! Thank you for this!!

  25. Lux says:

    Oh, gosh. Yes to these life skills. Never too late to learn and pass them on. 🙂

  26. Great advice! You have really got me thinking this morning about how I can be more of a blessing to those around me. What can I do for others to make their day a little nicer? I also need to go home and “chuck” some stuff!

    • womenabiding says:

      What a special thing to hear, Christina! God bless you as you are used of Him to be a blessing to others and also as you “chuck, chuck, chuck!” The more the better 🙂 xox

  27. Jann says:

    Great thoughts! I wish I had this list when my daughters were younger. I am going to pass this post on to our Mops group! Stopping by from Reflect.

  28. This is a great list and there are a lot of things on here that I could do better too! Thanks for sharing! Visiting from Saturday Soiree

  29. I love these ideas! Many of the ideas are so simple, but true. Thanks for sharing!

  30. Great list! I especially like the first section on Spiritual Advice. Found your blog on Sandra Heska King’s link-up.

  31. Super post! I wish I had known of some of these as well! 🙂

  32. I loved your list! So many good and great things to remember. I will be copying your list and trying my very best to implement it into my life and the life of my daughter.
    I am very excited to explore the rest of your blog and see what other “gems” I can find.
    Thanks so much for sharing and I look forward to reading many more of your posts.

  33. This is fantastic! I wish I had learned many of these while growing up, too.
    There are so many on the list that I think I need to review it on occasion. I’m pinning it to my “Raising an Inheritance” board on Pinterest. Thanks for sharing!

  34. wow I would have loved to learn this like 40 years ago vs now but it’s never to late to learn and pass it along! Thanks for sharing all these great hints/tips and advice with Snickerdoodle Sunday!

  35. Karen says:

    Love these practical words of wisdom. I have had #2 as a guideline for a while. If you can coalesce what you read or hear into one point, then you’re more likely to remember. If reading or listening is worth your time, so is remembering. thanks!

  36. Belinda says:

    Great list. There are a few there that I need to polish up in my own life – let alone pass onto my kids. Sharing and bookmarking for my own future reference! thanks.

  37. Hey, I am your neighbor again, this time at Thought provoking Thursday! Still liking #4. I’ve been doing #15 Always be reading a good book. and obviously need to work on #16 since it is way past 11pm and the time I should be in bed :/ Oh well, there is always another day to work on that one – blessings 🙂

  38. Melanie Redd says:

    What a wonderful list!

    I think you could write 23 more posts – using each of these as a separate topic!

    There are many that I liked… go to bed by 11, pray right when you say you will, and be a chucker not a hoarder!

    Glad to find Women Abiding through Grace and Truth today.
    Hope you have a blessed day~
    Melanie

  39. denise says:

    awesome post.

  40. Tara D says:

    What a great list. I love the gift cupboard idea. Pinning this to review more later. Thank you for sharing this!

  41. Carolyn says:

    This is a WONDERFUL list! I still need to work on many of these things as well as teach my daughters! I love the idea of gleaning one thing from every sermon or book. Thank you for this post! 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      So excited that you liked this list, Carolyn. I already have about 23 more that have come to mind since I wrote this. I guess when we are aware of noting things that we can pass on to our daughters, there are many truths and tips that we’ve all learned that we can share! So lovely to have you here!

  42. I LOVE this list!!

    I have always been mindful of the importance of leaving a good legacy. I will definitely be bookmarking this post as a reminder.

    Two things I have and still do is in the written form.

    I am always sure to make notes in my Bible as I study the Scriptures so that my children, grandchildren and future generations will have a keepsake of what spoke to me and lessons that I learned through sermons or Bible studies.

    I also started keeping a journal of encouraging quotes; most related to Bible verses, but some just good, solid advice and encouragement in the hopes that my children, grandchildren and future generations will find encouragement as well.

    It was a blessing to stop by today. 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      Karen! I love your heart to think generationally! You are a super inspiration and I have no doubt that your descendents after you will thank God for your wisdom and care in preparing the way for them to live more holy lives! Keep at it, sweet sister. You’re doing great!!! xoxo

  43. Sasha says:

    I love this! Some really great ideas.

  44. Great post, very well detailed. I was unable to make up my mind for just one as they are all very good tips.
    Thanks for sharing.

  45. Dawn says:

    What a list! Love this list with so many practical tips and advice nuggets. Your daughters are blessed to inherit this. Psalm 25:10 was a verse I included at my grandmother’s funeral as I spoke because it told of the literal lists she left us in all her living. One of the things she always told me was to keep a geranium through the winter in the house from your summer garden and whenever a friend leaves, give them a slip of it. I get a geranium for years till one September we had an early freeze and it killed it. : ( I can’t look at a geranium without thinking of her and her wise advice on many things.

    Blessings!
    Dawn

    • womenabiding says:

      Oh what a lovely sentiment, Dawn… it’s those little tips that bless us so much, isn’t it. It doesn’t even have to be things that are necessary, just ideas that make life more beautiful for us and those around us… Your grandmother sounds as though she was a very, very special lady! Thank you for inspiring me with her legacy!

  46. Robbi says:

    Love it! My mom did pass any of these things down to me, but I want to be sure to pass them on to my kids! Thank you for sharing!

  47. #6 has never dawned me. I’ve done that many times too. Thanks for the tip! #WholeHearedWednesday

  48. Anastasia says:

    Great list! I would add to always always be kind. Whether you feel like it or not. 🙂

  49. Lana Lou says:

    These are wonderful things to remember! I will definitely be implementing some of these into my daily life.

  50. Romany says:

    Great post such useful information, will be pinning and sharing

  51. Julie S says:

    What a great list of lessons to teach your daughter. I’m especially intrigued by the midnight item. I do feel much better going to bed before midnight.

    • womenabiding says:

      Me too! But I rarely do 🙁 I’m still working on this myself… Sometimes its because we as parents make mistakes, we want so much for our children not to live their own lives making the same mistakes we do… Thank you for your comment, friend!

  52. Sarah Eliza says:

    Good list! Wise and thoughtful. Found you via Give Me Grace. 🙂

  53. Kelsie says:

    It totally agreed with you- these things are oh so important, and often overlooked. Hoping to instill and share these with a future daughter someday!

  54. What a great post! I loved the one about writing the scripture numbers down first, then the book name! I’ve always gotten so frustrated and never thought of this! ingenious!!
    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

  55. I truly enjoyed this post. I agreed with everything you said. I loved… bring something, being on time, and praying for those you promised to pray for. I think in life it is all about making others feel important and good. They will forget what you said but they will not forget how we made them feel. I loved these lessons. I really need to plan birthdays out in advance and make them special for those who live far from me. Thank u and God bless. Will share this on Facebook and google+

    • womenabiding says:

      My turn to compliment your writing, Irina! “in life it is all about making others feel important and good” So true! You’re a darling! God bless you xoxo

  56. Karen says:

    These are all great advise. I wish my Mom would have taught me how to eat healthy and cook. I had to learn it on my own and it took a long time to figure out, plus I have a tendency when busy to revert to my patterns of upbringing. The rest, she really did teach me.

  57. These are some great tips, I especially like the one about marking down if someone is having surgery, etc.

    Thanks for sharing.

  58. I love the when you visit someone always bring something with you. I am sitting here going man why didn’t I think of that?

    JEM
    PS I came by from Pit Stop.

    • womenabiding says:

      LOL! It’s amazing the simple things we can pick up from others. I think that bringing someone something whenever I visit was one of the first things I learned in adulthood and it got me thinking that there’s probably a lot more I still need to learn – which there still is (at age 42!) 🙂 Blessings to you… xox

  59. #14 and #15 are two I remember my mom always saying 🙂 Great list and good points to be mindful of. Thanks for sharing. Stopping by from Mom to MOm Monday 🙂

    • womenabiding says:

      So glad you like the list, Rebecca! It’s amazing how much we remember what our mothers told us even though it was decades ago 🙂 Blessings to you xoxo

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